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The hallmark of a loving marriage is each partner’s
readiness to do the will of the other. If one partner expresses
a desire for something, the other will do everything in his
or her power to bring about its fulfillment.
A greater love is demonstrated when each partner also strives
to fulfill the implied will of the other. To the truly
devoted spouse, it makes no difference if a desire has been
explicitly expressed or merely hinted at—he or she will
carry it out with the same devotion and commitment to the
loved one’s gratification.
Finally, there are those very special marriages in which
there is no need for even the merest of allusions. So deep
is the bond between husband and wife that each intuitively
knows what the other wants of him or her. Indeed, when two
people love each other to such a degree, there is no greater
joy than that experienced when one has succeeded in sensing
and satisfying the other’s desire all on one’s own.
Three Degrees of Commandment
The month of Tishrei is a month replete with mitzvot—with
opportunities for carrying out the divine will. For thirty
days, the Jew’s every thought and moment is filled with
praying, repenting, fasting, feasting, dancing, building a
sukkah, acquiring a lulav and etrog or
a bundle of hoshaanot, and dozens of other mitzvot,
customs and observances.
The observances of Tishrei fall into three general categories.
There are “biblical precepts”—commandments
that are explicitly stated in the Torah. These include mitzvot
such as sounding the shofar, fasting on Yom Kippur,
or eating in the sukkah. There are also a number of
“rabbinical mitzvot”—observances instituted
by the prophets and the sages by the authority vested in them
by the Torah. For example, the five prayer services held on
Yom Kippur and the taking of the “Four Kinds” on
all but the first day of Sukkot are all rabbinical institutions.
Finally, the month of Tishrei has many minhagim or
“customs,” such as eating an apple dipped in honey
on the first night of Rosh HaShanah or conducting the kapparot
in the wee hours of the morning on the day before Yom Kippur.
The minhagim are not mandated by biblical or rabbinical
law, but by force of custom: these are things that we ourselves
have initiated as ways to enhance our service of our Creator.
The climax of the month of Tishrei, the point at which our
celebration of G-d’s festivals attains the very pinnacle
of joy, is during the hakkafot of Simchat Torah, when
we take the Torah scrolls in hand and dance with them around
the reading table in the synagogue. Most amazingly, the hakkafot
are neither a biblical nor a rabbinical precept; they are
“merely” a custom.
For it is with our observance of the customs that we express
the depth of our love for G-d. The biblical commandments might
be compared to the explicitly expressed desires between two
people bound in marriage. The rabbinical mitzvot, which G-d
did not directly instruct us but which nevertheless constitute
expressions of the divine will,[1] resemble the implied requests between spouses.
But the minhagim represent those areas in which we
intuitively sense how we might cause G-d pleasure—and
in this lies our greatest joy.
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[1]. Before performing a rabbinical mitzvah, we recite
a blessing that begins with the words, “Blessed are
You, G-d... Who has sanctified us with His commandments
and commanded us to....” For since G-d commanded us
to fulfill the mitzvot instituted by the sages, these are
divine commandments; the difference between the biblical
and rabbinical mitzvot is only in that the former are more
explicitly the expressed will of G-d. Thus, fulfilling a
rabbinical precept is a greater show of commitment, for
we thereby exhibit our equal devotion to those divine desires
which G-d has not directly related to us.
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