The Talking Donkey


Listen to Your Body

A mysterious event in this week’s Torah portion reveals a phenomenon new to modern psychology—that we must listen to our body’s voice, which carries messages, memories and potent power.

One of the strangest episodes in history takes place in this week’s Torah portion. The gentile prophet Balaam is commissioned by Moabite King Balak to curse the Jewish people. Balak felt threatened by the Jews. He wanted to defeat them in battle and drive them away.

Initially G-d does not allow Balaam to go. But after Balak’s emissaries beseech him G-d permits him to go, saying “But only do exactly as I instruct you.”

Balaam got up in the morning, saddled his female donkey and went on his way. G-d plants His angel in the road to oppose him.

When the donkey saw G-d’s angel standing in the road with a drawn sword in his hand, the donkey went aside from the road into the field. Balaam beat the donkey to get it back on the road. G-d’s angel then stood in a narrow path through the vineyard, where there was a fence on either side. When the donkey saw G-d’s angel, it edged over to the side, crushing Balaam’s foot against the wall. [Balaam] beat it even more. G-d’s angel continued ahead, and he stood in a narrow place, where there was no room to turn right or left. When the donkey saw G-d’s angel, it lay down [refusing to budge] for Balaam. Balaam lost his temper and beat the donkey with a stick.

G-d then opened the donkey’s mouth and it said to Balaam,

“What have I done to you that you beat me these three times?” “You have embarrassed me [or: been playing games with me],” shouted Balaam at the donkey. “If I had a sword in my hand just now, I would have killed you!”

The donkey replied to Balaam, “Am I not your [faithful] donkey, upon which you have been riding from back when until this day. Have I ever been unmindful to you?” “No,” replied Balaam. G-d then opened Balaam’s eyes and he perceived the angel standing in the road, with a drawn sword in his hand. [Balaam] kneeled and prostrated himself on his face.

G-d’s angel said to him,

“Why did you beat your donkey these three times? I have come out to oppose you, because your errand is obnoxious to me. When the donkey saw me, it turned aside these three times. If it had not turned aside before me, as it did now, I would have killed you and spared [the donkey].”

Balaam said to G-d’s angel: “I have sinned! I did not know that you were standing on the road before me. If you consider it wrong [for me to go], I will return home.” G-d’s angel said to Balaam, “Go with the men. But do not say anything other than the exact words that I declare to you.”

The narrative continues with G-d compelling Balaam to bless the Jews instead of cursing them, to the chagrin of Balak and his cronies.

This story with the talking donkey is puzzling from beginning to end. If G-d didn’t want Balaam to go to Balak, why didn’t he just stop him from going? If for whatever reason G-d wanted to block his way with an angel, why did he hide the fact from Balaam and allow the donkey to see the angel – after all Balaam, not the donkey, was the prophet?!

A Torah axiom states that G-d does not perform miracles in vain. Why then was this miracle of miracles necessary, to have the donkey see the angel, resist moving on, until the donkey ends up speaking?! This miracle would have been totally unnecessary if Balaam had seen the angel himself. Why the need to open the donkey’s mouth?!

The plot thickens: the Mishne states (in the Ethics of our Fathers) that the “donkey’s mouth” was one of the ten unique things created at dusk on the sixth day of creation! In other words, G-d planted this episode from the beginning of time by creating the “donkey’s mouth” for the day when the donkey would speak to Balaam!

Why is the “donkey’s mouth” so significant?


Torah speaks in the language of man. Beneath the literal meaning in the Torah narrative lay layers upon layers of deeper dimensions. Within the “body” of the story lies it’s soul – profound spiritual and psychological insights that illuminate the nature of our psyches and provide direction how to deal with the challenges of life. Every character in Torah, every episode of its narrative, parallels a facet of our personalities.

The story of Balaam and his donkey is the story of our own lives, with a multitude of lessons.

The Hebrew word for donkey is “chamor.” [A female donkey (jennet) is called “osson.”  “Pered” is the Hebrew name for a mule (or a hinny), a hybrid borne of a horse and a donkey. But the general name for donkey, male or female, is “chamor”].

The Baal Shem Tov explains that “chamor” also means matter. In Exodus the verse states: “When you see the donkey of your enemy being overburdened by its burdens, don’t ignore it. It’s incumbent upon you to help relieve its burden.” Interprets the Baal Shem Tov: You observe “chamor” – your physical body and the coarse materialism of life – and you see that it is your enemy, opposing all things spiritual, and feeling overburdened by the sublime responsibilities of the soul. You may then consider ignoring the body so that it does not distract you from fulfilling your calling. You may even want to punish your body through asceticism and self-affliction. Says the Torah: No! You are responsible to support, refine and elevate the “chamor,” even if it is ostensibly your enemy.

Balaam the prophet represents the paradox of a spiritual man locked in a decadent lifestyle. Each of us has two dimensions: A sacred side and a profane one. A person may be deeply spiritual, yet also profoundly corrupt. Indeed, the Talmud says “the greater the person, the greater his evil inclination.” An extraordinarily gifted person always has equally powerful unique challenges. Left without discipline these gifts can be abused. And when they are, it is very difficult to get through to the person. Because the smarter he is, the better are his excuses and his ability to cover his tracks. He can mask his subjectivity with brilliant smokescreens.

At it’s extreme, you have Balaam: A prophet willing and delighted to use his Divine power to curse an entire nation.

Spiritual corruption or distortion is worse than other forms of corruption, because it uses a very positive force for negative ends. In other instances of corruption, you can always hope that a person’s conscience and spirit can be aroused. But once the spirit has been corrupted, and the soul has been taken hostage by destructive forces, what recourse is left?

The same holds true for any abuse perpetrated by a person who is supposed to love you: A parent, a sibling, a spouse. With strangers we have our guard up. If a stranger is abusive, s/he cannot hurt you that much because you don’t necessarily expect much from a stranger. But abuse coming from a loved one hurts us in the deepest place: the place of love. A parent, for instance, is supposed to love you, and as a child you are vulnerable before your parent. Thus, when the parent is abusive, it touches the very core of our beings: our souls. The worst abuse is the one that scars our most vulnerable places. Nothing is worse then love itself – and the source of love – being (ab)used in a cruel way.

So what is the antidote to this epitome of distortion? If the gifted person, or the one who is supposed to be providing love, has become corrupt to the point that he cannot even listen, how then do you get through to him.

The dilemma is also from the perspective of the abusee (the survivor): Once someone has been hurt in a deep part of his spirit, he doesn’t allow anyone in. So how can he be reached?

Yet, G-d in His infinite wisdom precedes the cure before the illness. Even when the soul may be unable to hear the message, the body has its own voice that speaks to us.

In modern psychology there is a phenomenon, which we shall call “psychological hypothermia.” When a child suffers severe abuse from a loved one (especially if its ongoing), the child will go “out of body” to separate himself from the experience. One of the reasons for this is presumably because the child cannot tolerate the possibility of a loved one hurting him. He therefore disassociates from the experience, as if it didn’t happen to him.

Hypothermia is “a decrease in the core body temperature to a level at which normal muscular and cerebral functions are impaired.” When a child, for instance, falls into ice-cold water, and his temperature drops to dangerous levels, the child will go into a state of shock, which shuts down the primary life functions to the point that the child may appear dead, in order to preserve the bare minimum energy for the vital organs. In other words, in order to survive the conscious faculties have to temporarily stop functioning.

The same is true psychologically. For survival purpose, sometimes we have to detach from an experience, to the point that we may be unaware of it in our conscious minds.

Yet – and this is the big yet – even as our conscious spirits may be unaware of the experience, our bodies remember them. Every experience in our lives is etched into the memory of our bodies. That is why we talk about experiencing “knots” and “tightness” in our bodies. Psychological feelings do not remain in the mental domain; they seep into the body, causing all sorts of physical reactions (“knots in the stomach” is one mild example). Anxiety oozes toxins into your body. Strong traumatic experiences tie up your body in knots.

In severe cases, the personality shift that happens at the time of abuse remains long after the experience. A child may grow into an adult that has actually shifted his personality, and is living, in some ways, like another person, often having “out of body” experiences. So severe was the initial abuse.

But, even when the soul, for whatever reason, is unable to consciously acknowledge an experience, the body has stored it away, for the day when it will be safe to emerge.

And therein lies the true power of therapy and growth: To help an individual find safety and security, so that he or she can then work on “untying the knots,” and allowing himself to access the soul that he had to hide away so long ago.

By no means is this a simple process. It can even be torturous at times. Yet, in a strange way this phenomenon is a testimony to one of the greatest resiliencies of the human being: G-d allows a child to survive even the worst experiences, and then gives him the strength to reconnect with himself when the times is right and the situation safe.

Even when the soul is not conscious of the memory, because the abuse came from a soul connection – a loving person – the body is endowed with a wisdom that does remember. And it holds the secret till the day when the soul will be able to hear the message.

This is the inside story of Balaam and his donkey. G-d could not get through to Balaam on a fundamental level. He saw that Balaam was intent on going to Balak and helping him implement his malevolent plan. But even when the soul cannot be reached, the body can. So it is the “chamor” – the body – that sees the “angel,” and it is the body that cries out to the person prodding him to open his eyes.

What is most fascinating about this concept is that usually we associate awareness with the soul. Yet, Jewish mysticism teaches that the body too was created by G-d. It therefore contains unique Divine energy of its own. Indeed, the body carries enormous power stemming from the Essence of G-d, which in some ways is superior even to the energy of the soul!

But often when our bodies speak to us, beckoning us to act, we may ignore the voice. Or worse: We may “beat” the body, as Balaam beat his donkey, because it is becoming a nuisance and distracting us from our misguided plans.

So, we have many voices available to us. In healthy situation, and in many instances, it is the voice of our souls that we should be heeding. Yet, at times our bodies carry important messages for us.

The question is: Are we listening?


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Sally Dietz
16 years ago

I especially identify with Balaam as a person who is awake but not fully awake and who does not fully listen, hear and understand. A person who bumbles along under the bad influence of others while ignoring the voice of Angels. Then he wakes up and listens to the Angel and life has a good purpose.

Ezza Amitai
15 years ago

I just had a MAJOR breakthrough, right this minute, from reading this article. Thank you thank you thank you! Just like a light bulb going on in my head – illumination. Your article helped make clear to me the deeper meaning of an excruciating pain Ive been enduring for 20 years. I had a look at what the donkey was telling me, and it is a real AHA!! moment. Now I hope the healing can come, since the source of the horrific pain has been revealed. Oh, blessed is the L-rd our G-d; every day I get gladder and more exalting in my teshuva. Its the most exciting thing in my life; it IS my life. How lucky I am to be teshuva. I can appreciate and adore what some perceive as a burden, because Judaism wasnt dumped on me along with heavy parental baggage, which I feel is what turns many Jews away from this precious way of life. Baruch HaShem.

Esther Sarah Evans
14 years ago

This story really goes to the quick. You see I have a cat, who not only hears, but sees things – and not just visible ones, also invisible ones, but ones that are real, and thats both very helpful and also sometimes very unnerving. – Furthermore, I can remember once when I was in Europe – at three oclock in the morning, when the birds in the forest nearby were making like one giant orchestra, and suddenly they stopped ! as if someone had switched off a radio ! It just couldnt be…and shortly after that came an earthquake, not a very strong one, but certainly quite perceptible. – Ok, that was more physical, but with my cat (and most likely many others too), there is a sensitivity – even emotional, and there is a perception of energies, if you will, even of spiritual influences. Even a dog, who is by nature neither as intelligent nor as sensitive as a cat, sometimes bristles for no visible or otherwise humanly perceptible reason, and may appear to have temporarily lost it. HaShem used this partially observable phenomenon to bring in a plausible fashion a revelation that teaches. This phenomenon we have of course with humans too; sometimes the supposedly not so bright individual may prove to be the navi – the prophet. The Sekhel is something we have as a gift in various quantities that can be influenced a bit by diet. The spiritually tuned in are often the most modest of beings, sometimes an extreme form of what one would call impossible. Bilaam is a stubborn cuss; so to teach him HaShem used a Chamor – notorious for being stubborn – even moreso than Bilaam himself – to almost literally knock his socks off.

Joseph Lerman
14 years ago

Wasnt Belaam surprised when all of a sudden the donky started speaking to him?
The story tells us more about loyalty.
The fact that Bellam questioned the donky that
served him for so many years and all of a sudden started speaking?
The fact that he answered him insted of wondering
why is this dunky speaking shows that he (Belaam)was to anchses to go to Balak.
G-d wanted to remind him that his loyalty is to
G-d and he is only to say what G-d wants him
to say.

14 years ago

This was the right commentary at the right time.

chana bluma
14 years ago

Have sent this to everyone I know who deals with mind-body healing – EFT, reflexology et. Remarkable insights and grounding in Torah of these fascinating healing methods. Healer must be AWARE that his healing comes from G-d,and this article will certainly help him realise that.G-d bless

chana bluma
14 years ago

have sent this to everyone I know who deals with mind-body healing – EFT, reflexology et. Remarkable insights and grounding in Torah of these fascinating healing methods. Healer must be AWARE that his healing comes from G-d,and this article will certainly help him realise that.G-d bless

13 years ago

I liked the psychological links you have made. Reminds me a lot of the PTSD diagnosis in psychology. A person who has undergone abuse, AKA trauma sometimes cant really deal with it until they are away from the loved ones who perpetrated the original trauma. Its interesting that the donkey, by representing symbolically Balaams b0dy, jarred Balaam out of his desire to see Balak and his sinister plans. Very good story.

13 years ago

It does touch me several times. Up to now i remember my youth – maybe in a distorted form? you have the ability to change this through tangible resoning.

13 years ago


yosher koach!

you have got something there!

13 years ago

This article is a powerful teaching for our lives and its inner meaning profound. I am sending this to a dear one who I believes suffers from the traumatic disassociation you referenced from the abuse of a loved one and who also has a greatly spiritual core within a corrupt body. Thank you. ..

rahmiel hayyim
13 years ago

There are no coincidences, only connections. I literally finished watching the movie Waltz with Bashir when I read this weeks commentary. Waltz with Bashir is a 2008 Israeli animated documentary film written and directed by Ari Folman. It depicts Folman in search of his lost memories from the 1982 Lebanon War. It concerns the psychological hypothermia mentioned in your commentary, and I commend it strongly to all readers.

13 years ago

This is one of the best analyses of the body/brain being the guiding agent. I have never heard this before. Too much orthodoxy is caught up with the G-dly Soul and trailing it for guidance. Its about time someone like yourself show where the body is as important and sometimes more so. Orthodoxy does not delve into the traumatic areas like your article does. All the coverup does is show how out of touch orthodoxy can be. We no longer live in the desert nor Ehypt, but Orthodoxy would almost have you believe that we do. They wont let it go. They bombard their followers with it. They alienate the youth by telling them what to think and do not teach them how to think.

Yasher koach to you for writing about these common problems, and a couple ideas of how to deal with them. For severe cases it takes two to work it out. The abused or sick person is wrapped in barbed wire. There is no way out of such a circumstance. You need someone on the outside unraveling the barbed wire with you.

Tziporah Waternov
13 years ago

I read many Torah commentaries but seldom send them on. This one is the exception-It is practically applicable AND Divinely Inspired

Its Gevault! Emes!!


11 years ago

The Torah is combed through for th meaning of every word and letter and nuance. What is the significance of the donkey being female? It must be significant if the Torah states the donkeys gender.

5 days ago
Reply to  Esther

It appears to me that it represents the body/Chava.

11 years ago

Your Torah portions are unbelevible amazing. They are a big gift every week. Thank you Rabbi Jacobson!

Linda Flora
11 years ago

Thank you! Without the teachings of the rabbis and yours are beautifully powerful for healing (in all its forms) what would the nations do? As a gentile woman thank you for teaching the truth so we can open our eyes in every direction. Especially to HaShem

10 years ago

Good article however the Hebrew word for donkey in this parsha is not chamor but aton which spelled in English could look like atone. Also, aton is a female donkey and the word at in Hebrew means you for a female so aton could be a plural of you-maybe it is a message that males should listen to females who see more than men?

6 years ago

Rabbi–thank you for this, I have been struggling to get through on an issue with my family. This has helped me sort this out.

6 years ago

Poor little donkey, having to live is life with that creep. Why did H’S allow the creep to kill the donkey when H’S would have spared the donkey?

5 years ago

All I can say is WOW! You ARE amazing! Our species is very complicated! Life is very complicated. Having the awareness and consciousness that is described in your commentary can help us navigate the path we all traverse. Thank you and Shabbat Shalom! Richard

5 years ago

This is a fascinating insight into a most puzzling Torah story.
you mentioned “out-of-body” experiences that abused children may have. I wonder if such experiences can also be caused by, for example, extreme physical fatigue or even very deep relaxation. ( I had one such experience as a teenager, which of course is a very difficult period for most of us, after doing a deep relaxation exercise.)

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