Do You Feel Abandoned?
The feeling of abandonment is a profound and often painful experience. It speaks to a fundamental human need: connection. Just as oxygen sustains our physical bodies, connection nourishes our souls.
The Importance of Connection
Think back to those nine months we spend enveloped in our mother’s womb—connected, nurtured, protected. This experience of complete attachment lays the foundation for our need to belong, to be seen, and to be loved.
When a child experiences abandonment, whether physical or emotional, that foundational sense of security is shaken. This can lead to a lifetime of questioning one’s worth and struggling to form trusting relationships.
The Myth of Self-Sufficiency
We often encounter the idea that true strength lies in independence, in not needing anyone. But this is a fallacy. The ability to love and be loved is not a weakness, but a testament to our shared humanity. True love thrives on vulnerability, on the courage to open our hearts to another, trusting that we will be met with care and respect.
Denying our need for connection does not make us stronger; it simply builds walls that keep others out and ourselves trapped within.
Finding Value From Within
If you have experienced abandonment, know that healing is possible. It begins with recognizing that your worth is inherent, not contingent on the actions or opinions of others.
- Acknowledge the pain: Denying or suppressing feelings of abandonment will only prolong the healing process. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, but do not let it define you.
- Reconnect with your soul: Our souls are the wellspring of our value, a source of strength and resilience. Nurture your soul through prayer, meditation, acts of kindness, or any practice that connects you to something greater than yourself.
- Surround yourself with love: Seek out people who uplift and inspire you, who see your inherent worth and encourage you to shine. Remember, you deserve to be surrounded by love.
Singing Your Unique Song
Each of us carries within us a unique song, a gift to share with the world. When we live from a place of inner strength and self-worth, we find the courage to sing that song, to share our gifts, and to make our mark on the world.
Do not let the pain of abandonment silence your song. Embrace your value, cultivate loving connections, and live a life that reflects the beautiful, unique soul that you are.
This article is based on Rabbi Simon Jacobson’s talk, which you can watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xOb3GzHfN7k. For more insights and inspiration, visit MeaningfulLife.com.
