Born an Original: Rabbi Simon Jacobson’s Practical Guide to Living Authentically
What happens when you realize that much of your life has been lived according to others’ expectations? For many, this uncomfortable question marks a turning point: a deep yearning not only to fit in, but to finally stand out—to reclaim the unique voice often silenced by conformity and fear. Rabbi Simon Jacobson urges each person to rediscover and celebrate their inner originality, offering a blueprint for authentic living grounded in both Chassidic wisdom and modern psychological insight.
Unmasking Your True Self
In a world that often rewards sameness, it’s easy to lose sight of who we are beneath the roles we play—employee, child, parent, friend. Rabbi Jacobson teaches that every soul is born “an original, not a copy.” Authenticity isn’t about rebellion or disregard for responsibility; it’s about honoring the spark that makes you irreplaceably you.
Consider the story of a young professional who spent years pursuing a career path that pleased family, only to wake up feeling empty and disconnected from their true calling. Their turning point? Asking: “What would I be like if I could let go of everyone else’s expectations?”
Why We Struggle with Authenticity
Many obstacles stand in the way of authenticity—social pressure, fear of judgment, a desire for acceptance. Rabbi Jacobson notes that our upbringing often wires us to seek validation, causing us to put on layers of “masks.” While these can help us navigate society, wearing them for too long can blur the line between performance and reality, leaving us feeling unfulfilled.
Authentic living requires the courage to gently peel back those layers. This isn’t about defying every expectation, but about regularly checking in with your inner voice: What truly matters to you? When do you feel most alive, creative, and at peace?
Action Steps for Living Authentically
- Daily Self-Reflection: Dedicate a few minutes each day to reflect on times when you felt you were truly yourself. Journaling these moments builds awareness of your authentic core.
- Identify Your Masks: List roles and personas you put on in different settings. For each, ask: Am I doing this out of genuine choice or to please someone else?
- Create Safe Spaces: Seek out people who encourage your creativity and support the “new” ideas you want to try. Authenticity blossoms in accepting, nonjudgmental environments.
- Ask Liberating Questions: Set aside time to honestly ask: “What would I be or do if I were not under others’ influence?” Use this thought experiment to uncover desires and passions previously overlooked.
- Practice Self-Compassion: Remember, authenticity is a process. If you slip into old patterns, treat yourself with kindness, not self-blame. Every attempt to be honest with yourself is a victory.
From Individuality to Symphony
Rabbi Jacobson likens humanity to a symphony where every instrument contributes a unique sound. Your task is not just to play your part, but to discover the distinct melody only you can offer. This is not only affirming—it’s empowering. When you honor your voice, you inspire others to do the same, creating a chorus of originality instead of an echo chamber of conformity.
If you find yourself stuck in an echo of someone else’s script, remember that change begins with a single note: an act of courage, a moment of honesty, a step outside the comfort zone. You were born an original—don’t become a copy.
If you’re ready to explore further and learn actionable techniques for living authentically, watch the full class here.
