Your Guide to Personal
Counting the Omer: Week Seven
During the seventh and final week of counting the Omer, we
examine and refine the attribute of Malchut - nobility, sovereignty
and leadership. Sovereignty is a state of being rather than
an activity. Nobility is a passive expression of human dignity
that has nothing of its own except that which it receives
from the other six emotions. True leadership is the art of
selflessness; it is only a reflection of a Higher will. On
the other hand, Malchut manifests and actualizes the character
and majesty of the human spirit. It is the very fiber of what
makes us human.
Malchut is a sense of belonging. Knowing that you matter
and that you make a difference. That you have the ability
to be a proficient leader in your own right. It gives you
independence and confidence. A feeling of certainty and authority.
When a mother lovingly cradles her child in her arms and the
child's eyes meet the mother's affectionate eyes, the child
receives the message: I am wanted and needed in this
world. I have a comfortable place where I will always be loved.
I have nothing to fear. I feel like royalty in my heart.
This is Malchut, kingship.
Day 43 - Chesed of Malchut: Lovingkindness in Nobility
Healthy sovereignty is always kind and loving. An effective
leader needs to be warm and considerate. Does my sovereignty
make me more loving? Do I exercise my authority and leadership
in a caring manner? Do I impose my authority on others?
Exercise for the day: Do something kind for your subordinates
Day 44 - Gevurah of Malchut: Discipline in Nobility
Although sovereignty is loving, it needs to be balanced with
discipline. Effective leadership is built on authority and
discipline. There is another factor in the discipline of sovereignty:
determining the area in which you have jurisdiction and authority.
Do I recognize when I am not an authority? Do I exercise authority
in unwarranted situations? Am I aware of my limitations as
well as my strengths? Do I respect the authority of others?
Exercise for the day: Before taking an authoritative position
on any given issue, pause and reflect if you have the right
and the ability to exercise authority in this situation.
Day 45 - Tiferet of Malchut: Compassion in Nobility
A good leader is a compassionate one. Is my compassion
compromised because of my authority? Do I realize that an
integral part of dignity is compassion? Tiferet - harmony
- is critical for successful leadership. Do I manage a smooth-running
operation? Am I organized? Do I give clear instructions to
my subordinates? Do I have difficulty delegating power? Do
we have frequent staff meetings to coordinate our goals and
Exercise for the day: Review an area where you wield authority
and see if you can polish it up and increase its effectiveness
by curtailing excesses and consolidating forces.
Day 46 - Netzach of Malchut: Endurance in Nobility
A person's dignity and a leader's success are tested by
his endurance level. Will and determination reflect the power
and majesty of the human spirit. How determined am I in reaching
my goals? How strong is my conviction to fight for a dignified
cause? How confident am I in myself? Is my lack of endurance
a result of my low self-esteem? Do I mask my insecurities
by finding other excuses for my low endurance level?
Exercise for the day: Act on something that you believe
in but have until now been tentative about. Take the leap
and just do it!
Day 47 - Hod of Malchut: Humility in Nobility
Sovereignty is G-d's gift to each individual. Hod of Malchut
is the humble appreciation of this exceptional gift. Does
my sovereignty and independence humble me? Am I an arrogant
leader? Do I appreciate the special qualities I was blessed
Exercise for the day: Acknowledge G-d for creating you
with personal dignity
Day 48 - Yesod of Malchut: Bonding in Nobility
Examine the bonding aspect of your sovereignty. Healthy
independence should not prevent you from bonding with another
person. On the contrary: self-confidence allows you to respect
and trust another's sovereignty and ultimately bond with him.
That bond will strengthen your own sovereignty, rather than
sacrifice it. Does my sovereignty prevent me from bonding?
Could that be because of deeper insecurities of which I am
unaware? Do I recognize the fact that a fear of bonding reflects
a lack of self-confidence in my own sovereignty?
Exercise for the day: Actualize your sovereignty by intensifying
your bond with a close one.
Day 49 - Malchut of Malchut: Nobility in Nobility
Examine the sovereignty of your sovereignty. Does it come
from deep-rooted inner confidence in myself? Or is it just
a put-on to mask my insecurities? Does that cause my sovereignty
to be excessive? Am I aware of my uniqueness as a person?
Of my personal contribution?
Exercise for the day: Take a moment and concentrate on
yourself, on your true inner self, not on your performance
and how you project to others; and be at peace with yourself
knowing that G-d created a very special person which is you.
After the 49 days of Counting the Omer, after having fully
achieved inner renewal by merit of having assessed and developed
each of our 49 attributes, we arrive at the fiftieth day.
On this day we celebrate the Festival of Shavuot, the giving
of the Torah (Matan Torah). After we have accomplished
all we can through our own initiative, then we are worthy
to receive a gift (matan) from Above which we could
not have achieved with our own limited faculties. We receive
the ability to reach and touch the Divine; not only to be
cultivated human beings who have refined all of our personal
characteristics, but divine human beings who are capable
of expressing ourselves above and beyond the definitions and
limitations of our beings.
This is an excerpt from Counting the Omer
A Spiritual Guide by Rabbi Simon Jacobson. This unique
book is now available at our online