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Would He Recognize His Children?

A short while ago I went into a Synagogue for the evening prayers. In middle of the service I noticed one congregant behaving rudely to another. I was about to say something, when a man standing next to me whispers: “These two guys have been fighting as long as I am here. Don’t get involved.”

“No big thing,” you may think. “People everywhere have their petty fights.” But I couldn’t just dismiss this away. A personal childhood experience would not allow me to. When I was around 6 years old, I vividly recall – in a type of frozen image, the type that results only from a childhood experience forever etched in our memories – a fistfight that took place in my local shul. I never will forget my fright and horror watching these two big guys punching it out right in middle of the prayer services. When I asked my father what was going on, he simply waved it away and said “tzvai idioten” (two idiots)…

Years later, I have heard far too many people telling me how similar distasteful experiences have turned them off from religion and religious institutions: Having witnessed profound inconsistencies between people’s outward appearance (as devout individuals) and their actual behavior; having seen how a person can be obsessively committed to certain rituals and simultaneously be utterly unrefined and callous; how certain religious individuals are judgmental and condescending, playing “holier than thou,” and in their own personal lives, beneath the surface, they can stoop to pettiness, greed and even… fistfights; how divisiveness and just plain primitive acrimony has permeated so many communities of faith; how children in religious homes are being hurt by selfish adults, no different than their counterparts in secular homes. All these radical discrepancies and contradictions have contributed to much of today’s cynicism and rejection of religious life.

Obviously, this must be qualified by two important facts: The first is that this by no means is a blanket stereotype of religious individuals, many of whom are gentle, sensitive souls, people who continuously work on refining themselves precisely due to their beliefs. Some of the most noble, cultivated and spiritual humans on earth are people of faith. The second point is that a system should never be judged by any one or group of individuals. Religion establishes a particular standard for human virtue and justice. No person on this planet can live up to the highest standard; the committed life is one that always aspires to reach upward, while knowing our shortcomings and that there are always greater horizons to conquer. The fact that a few individuals may be hypocrites and behave in embarrassing ways does not reflect on the system as a whole, only on the reality that the system does not preclude foolish people making bad choices and behaving inappropriately or immaturely. No different than, say, a scientist falsifying data reflects on all scientists and all of science.

Yet, those few (or a bit more) individuals who glaringly behave contrary to the religious standard are sure able to give all of religion a black eye – and one that endures.

So at disturbing times like this, when corrupt religion and the ugliness of human nature rears its head, I for one like to take a trip – a journey that takes us back over three millennia to the birth of religion.

What would the man who gave us monotheism and embraced a life of virtue, justice and kindness say about religion in our times? Would he even recognize it? How would Abraham react if he entered a modern-day Synagogue? Would he readily join a board of trustees of one of our religious institutions, or become part of its faculty? And how would he respond to a Synagogue brawl between his great great grandchildren?

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. So please submit them (by commenting on this article below) and let us compare notes.

Here is my speculation as to Abraham’s attitude to religious life today:

Let’s begin with the brawl. If Abraham walked into a Synagogue and saw the fight that I witnessed, I have no doubt that he would cry. He would have the same reaction to all the other inconsistencies mentioned above.

But the bigger question is whether he would even walk into a 21st century Synagogue? Would he be comfortable there? And which exact Synagogue would he choose?

Abraham would be quite disturbed by any house of G-d that has been turned into a bureaucracy. I doubt that Abraham would be comfortable in any shul that did not welcome every individual equally, where every soul felt at home.

Perhaps that is why the Arizal and the Baal Shem Tov – as it was the custom of other sages and mystics – would recite certain (the Shabbat eve) prayers in the field… We read in this week’s Torah portion (Genesis 24:63), “Isaac went out to speak (pray) in the field.” Isaac must have learned that from someone before him – none other than his father, Abraham. [Commentaries reconcile this with the law stating that one should pray in a structure – see Tosafot Berochos 34b. Zohar Beshalach 60a. Mogen Avraham Orach Chaim 90:6]. Some prayer is perhaps most conducive in the field, amongst nature, with no distractions from man-made structures and institutions. Even the structures where prayers should generally be held require windows that allow us to see and reach beyond the structure, to heaven. Abraham would be looking for the windows…

The Baal Shem Tov once ran out of a relatively empty Synagogue, complaining that the place was too packed leaving him no room to pray. When his students wondered what he meant, the Baal Shem Tov explained: The Zohar says that love and awe are like the two wings of a bird that carry our soaring prayers to heaven. In this particular Synagogue the prayers were being recited without any feeling at all, leaving them all grounded, like trapped birds, unable to soar. The Synagogue was therefore so packed with these “dead” prayers, leaving no room for the Baal Shem Tov…

Abraham would be looking for the windows – for the soaring prayers and the airborne spirits.

Abraham was a pioneer of non-conformity. He defied his family and his entire society, rejecting their paganism and charting a new course that would change history forever (see The Greatest Journey Ever Taken). No doubt that Abraham, the father of individuality and non-conformity, would be quite shocked to see how the Divine path that he initiated – leaving behind all his comfort zones, and choosing for himself and his children a life of virtue and service – how religion has become so conformist today, often stifling the human spirit.

Abraham was a global thinker with a universal vision to lead people toward personal and collective redemption. He clearly would find it odd that some Jews today have become so parochial, and even divisive, focusing on their personal lives, and often forgetting that G-d gave us a universal blueprint to improve the larger world. And like musical notes in one grand composition, we need each other to realize our individual aspirations.

Abraham did not seclude himself in study, prayer and Divine devotion. He opened his home to all, he “created” (inspired) souls in Charan, he made it his life’s work to not only teach his children the path of righteousness and justice, but to inspire everyone he came in contact with. How, Abraham would surely wonder, did his confident and proactive attitude – as a driving force in human progress – become so defensive and tentative?

Abraham was a passionate, revolutionary soul who changed the world around him, instead of letting the world change him. What happened, Abraham would ask, that today so many people of faith lack passion and soul? Why are there so many mechanical people, who perform even mitzvos by rote? And why is it that religious people today are so affected by contemporary society (whether they know it or not) and the pursuit of money, that instead of them shaping the world, the world is shaping them? And where oh where are the revolutionaries?

But above all, Abraham would not retreat. He would not choose the easier path of protecting his “own skin” and give up on our generation. If Abraham prayed for the infidels of Sodom, he surely would do all he possibly could to help us free ourselves of our own lethargy.

Abraham would certainly find profound merit in us, his grandchildren. That despite all the persecutions and genocides, despite centuries of oppression, we, Abraham’s progeny are still standing. Albeit, perhaps weak at times, perhaps inconsistent, perhaps devoid of passion – but still trying.

But Abraham would not suffice with finding merit in our lives. He would engage us, challenge us, rouse and empower us – he would fire us up to cease acting like victims and take control of our lives and our destinies. He would imbue us with profound confidence (or better yet: ignite the confidence that lies dormant in our souls) to go out and change the environment in which we live.

Yes indeed, just imagine how Abraham would turn over our world! The thought alone can make you shudder.

Interesting to envision how a man who lived over 3700 years ago would react to our world and what he would do to improve our condition.

Then again, perhaps there is an Abraham here with us today. Perhaps that Abraham is inside of you and me…

Photo by Jakob Montrasio/Flickr.

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27 Responses to “Abraham Today”

  1. Esther Sarah Evans

    bH
    Yes, I know where you are coming from concerning the fights, etc., from personal observation.
    I especially agree with what you said at the end – about each one of us having an inner Avraham.
    We should just encourage that inner Avraham.
    From personal experience I remember two things that especially turned me on and gave me hope in Shul:
    1) the Maasim one rabbi always used to tell in the way somebodys Zeyde might, but with rabbinical authority mixed in – masterpieces of supposedly homely narrative – that dealt with difficulties, encouraged, you name it.
    2) the sincerity of a Chazan with a very beautiful voice, who used to transform the Shul – for example, into an ark, when the Torah was being removed from the Aron, and I could feel the whole Shul travelling – whose Tefillah was so beautiful it made me cry, and it silenced the Schwaetzer (the habitual talkers), sometimes leaving them spellbound. Ya, if there is a Chazan like that one, it can save the whole Shul and then some.
    Basically, though, in addition, it is the Avraham, who invites Chilonim and just not so firmly attached souls into their homes, their warmth and their Cholent pots – and a shmooze over coffee afterwards and a reassurance that yes, we can make it. Its also, and maybe above all the rabbonim and others who are firmly convinced that if we would all just keep Shabbos – all of us – klal Yisrael – then we will finally merit Shalom. Thats why we say it: Shabbat Shalom.
    Shabbat Shalom umevorakh.
    Gut Shabbos.

    November 13th, 2009 at 7:22 am

  2. navi zeiler

    Hayom yom from the 26th of cheshvon:The true way is to know ones charector,truely recognizing ones own deficiencies-he should correct them with actual avoda,and not satisfy himself merely with bemoaning them.
    i bet avraham would be very proud of his children and grandchildren.look how much we care about one another-even if some behavior is undesierable.
    look how much we care.
    groaning by itself wont do a bit of good.A groan is only a key to open the heart and eyes,so as not to sit there with folded arms,but to plan orderly work and activity,each person wherever he can be effective,to campaign for bolstering Torah,spreading Torah and the observance of mitzvot.One person might do this through his writing,another with his oratory,another with his wealth.
    This is the correct-this is the jewish way.
    Good shabbos.

    November 13th, 2009 at 7:45 am

  3. Amy

    Great Article…I think Abraham took more a kabalistic or spiritual approach to everything he did and did not act like a machine as you say which is the best way to inspire others to act. no one wants rules!

    I am a social justice activist/advocate (for jews and non jews alike)…and Abraham’s vision is the true essence of what inspires me to keep going and stay focused to the true meaning in what I am doing; inspiring others from their core…from the humbleness in everyone..it just needs to be extracted!

    Also…I am a recent balachuva, so the questions you bring up I feel like I face everyday…where do I belong? Where do I feel comfortable praying…should I just stick to my apartment because in shul it goes to fast and I dont have the time to really connect with g-d…why is everyone rushing!

    Anyway, that you for a nice insight this morning.

    Shabbat Shalom,
    Amy

    November 13th, 2009 at 9:30 am

  4. california

    Why arent these emails reaching more people? The Rabbi is an absolute breath of fresh air for religion in general and judaism in particular.

    LATM

    November 13th, 2009 at 11:11 am

  5. Joshua Abrams

    Dear rabbi Simon, Wow. Great insight and inclusive too. Wish our father Abraham would see us now as we really try to improve ourselves and the world around us. Thanks for empowering us to access the modern day message of Abraham. Shabbat Shalom!

    November 13th, 2009 at 11:16 am

  6. Sarah

    Brilliant Article Rabbi. As usual you hit home on many points.

    I believe that if Abraham was alive today that he would teach us to pray as he did, not in a structure but in the field.

    I also believe that if Abraham saw the two men fighting in the synagogue, he wouldnt have kept quiet. He would have stopped it. Behaviour as that would not be tolerated during prayer.

    Thank you again

    Sarah

    November 13th, 2009 at 12:25 pm

  7. chaim teleshevsky

    I am quite interested in hearing what in fact your reaction to this usual disturbing scene was… and what you would have in retrospect have liked to have done.

    In fact, if you can, tell what would be the apropriate reaction for children who continuously experience their father humiliating their mother?

    November 13th, 2009 at 3:55 pm

  8. daniel Antopolsky

    I love our heritage of our Patriarchs, Matriarchs, and sages…….Of course, arguing and fighting, G-d forbid, in front of a Torah is inexcusable…….This is the core of Jewish disunity, which prolongs our sufferings as a people and feeds our galut mentality…..This makes it much easier for our world dominated ty Avraham Avinus other child and grandchild (Ishmael and Essau) to misjudge, mistreat, harrass, abuse, malign, and even murder us. Only Jewish unity, love, and understanding will bring an end to fights both inside and outside the synagogue.

    November 14th, 2009 at 1:49 pm

  9. Every time it comes to the Parshat of Vayaira and Chayei Sara I am troubled. What troubles me? Mainly, the following: Avraham taking his son to sacrifice him and yes, he didnt and yes, it was a test and yes yes yes…but all that I am left with is that Avraham took his son to sacrifice him while Sara wakes up running around to find him (probably like all of us wives…knows the mishagas of our husbands) and drops dead from most surely a heart attack or who knows what at her age. Then the beloved husband nicely gets her a burial plot and what does he do next? Remarries Hagar and yes yes yes…i know i know that it is written that HaShem told him to do so…that she did tshuva etc etc..but when you come down to it: This was the woman that was still an idol worshipper…she was still the mother of Ishmael whom Sara felt was a very bad influence upon her son…and to bring this woman back into the family..into his (Avraham) life and then he goes on to father 6 sons…well, there isnt enough space here for me to give you all that bothers me about these two Parshat very much so.

    November 14th, 2009 at 8:51 pm

  10. marilyn

    Every time it comes to the Parshat of Vayaira and Chayei Sara I am troubled. What troubles me? Mainly, the following: Avraham taking his son to sacrifice him and yes, he didnt and yes, it was a test and yes yes yes…but all that I am left with is that Avraham took his son to sacrifice him while Sara wakes up running around to find him (probably like all of us wives…knows the mishagas of our husbands) and drops dead from most surely a heart attack or who knows what at her age. Then the beloved husband nicely gets her a burial plot and what does he do next? Remarries Hagar and yes yes yes…i know i know that it is written that HaShem told him to do so…that she did tshuva etc etc..but when you come down to it: This was the woman that was still an idol worshipper…she was still the mother of Ishmael whom Sara felt was a very bad influence upon her son…and to bring this woman back into the family..into his (Avraham) life and then he goes on to father 6 sons…well, there isnt enough space here for me to give you all that bothers me about these two Parshat very much so.

    November 14th, 2009 at 8:51 pm

  11. Moshe

    Dear Rabbi:
    when I lived in Israel the one thing I liked was that it didnt matter what type of Jew I was, being jewish was enough and from that space of freedom I was able to practice and keep Shabbat and observe Halacha without feeling too constricted. As I went on in my journey and moved back to the US I became more concretized and less flexible as I tried to integrate into the American Jewish experence. Finally I dropped out of organized Orthodoxy for the very reasons you site in this article. I love being Jewish. It is for me a special blessing that I share with the world and influence it through. However I am not a halachic Jew as the 4 walls of Halacha became a prison for me here. Baruch Hashem I have an awesome wife who grew up in the tradition and through our relationship I am walking what seems a far more integrated path for myself. That said I wonder if Jewish people in general were more focused on connecting to Gd an each other and less focused on whether or not my neighbor keeps chalav Israel whether we could come closer to recognizing and accentuating our innate moshiachness? Peace.

    November 15th, 2009 at 12:53 pm

  12. alex

    It may be noteworthy to observe that Abraham was born and raised, into an urban environment. (Ur, his birth place, was at that time one of the great cities.) Yet, it became essential for his spiritual development to leave the cacophony of city life behind.
    By dint of his relocation and means of livelihood, he became a man of the fields, a roamer. Given his spiritual bent, and his evolving relationship to God, his communications with God (prayer/meditation) occurred in the great outdoors. This certainly established a template for outdoor communing with God, at least for a couple of generations, and perhaps all the way to Reb Nachman. (Interestingly, Lot despite being in the same business as Abraham, decided to reurbanize by moving to Sodom. I guess you cant take the city out of some boys.)
    My own perspective regarding Abraham is that he already had seen the effects of religion and found it wanting. Religion and the god concept, existed before him (after all, what was his father selling if not representations of gods), however, Abraham was sui generis. He understood that to have an authentic spiritual life, one had to strive for mastery. To achieve this state, he disciplined himself that whatever
    action he took, he did with commitment, attention to detail, and was fully completed. He wasnt trying to be perfect, rather he wanted to be total (bechol levovcho, uvchol nafshecho, ubechol meodecho.)
    If one continues to follow his learning curve, it becomes evident that Abraham was putting himself, or was being put by God, into situations where he had to
    exercise detachment. Examples: he leaves his country and family of origin, he gives Lot first choice of the grazing rights in Caanan, he withstands the torment of separating from his wife, Sarah, and allowing for the possibility of her defilement, he gives up his first born, Ishmael, and, of course, the ultimate detachment is the offering of his remaining son, Isaac, on the altar.
    Detachment is not about not owning anything, and disencumbering oneself of worldly goods. Rather, it is about not being owned by anything. It is an important spiritual principle that the more you are attached to something or someone, the less room there is for God. (I trust that no one reads this as a polemic against having feelings or caring about people. It requires self discipline and development to
    attain the proper distinctions between owning and not being owned. This, I believe, is one of the fundamental teachings of the Torah.)
    As to the fights that are alluded to in the set piece, they occur as a consequence of the fighters being so attached to their point of view that they are willing to maim for it. It is for this reason that the rabbis say that an angry person is comparable to an idolater, where the picture in our heads is more important than the welfare of the person whom we are beating on. We are witness in todays world to atrocities perpetrated by
    people who are so attached to their beliefs that they are willing to kill for them.

    November 15th, 2009 at 3:51 pm

  13. Alexa

    I imagine Abraham would indeed speak up in the synagogue had he witnessed a fight between 2 men, and Im sure he would do it with kindness ruling over judgment, and with love in his heart. There is no one that is past help or that cannot be changed. And in those times when we, in our judgment, cannot say or do something effective to quelch a fight, perhaps our concern will leave an impact, a lingering thought in one or both of the people engaged in that fight, that yes, someone out there cares, and that others are affected by their actions. And lastly, in those cases where no word or action will serve a productive end (where perhaps it might truly anger the individuals more, lets say), then we can engage the internal world of prayer, thoughts, and intention and send the individuals light, healing, and compassion.

    November 15th, 2009 at 11:16 pm

  14. Bunny S.

    In so far as my experience with your particular congregation (which I wish I could join but I am too far at present), Avraham would be tickled pink since I was a guest in the nearby hospital and was visited and nurtured by your congregation, just as Avraham would have done and did when seeing strangers coming near his tent.
    As far as the negative in religion, they are from the individual people, they seem to be in all religions, and it is the continual human struggle to go out of your way to fight the evil inclination and the apathy that mankind is apt to embrace. A wise person once told us that most people do what is easy so you must take particular note of those that DO go out of their way to make wonderful and loving choices.
    Therefore- 2 men were fighting. How many were in shul that day? Divide that number by 2 and the percent will be pretty good!

    November 21st, 2009 at 7:01 pm

  15. Gershon Sandler

    Religiouse Chabadnick gets convicted of Defrauding his fellow Jews by Court of Law is now waiting out come of appeal,While waiting for out come does it again and is convicted by Beisdin.Has his own shtetle Shull and continuosley Blasfeemes.Does one then Disasosiate one self from him.
    I am not a Chabadnick but a religouse secular Jew.What do I do?

    November 27th, 2009 at 9:44 am

  16. Hanna Perlberger

    Dear Rabbi, I have read and been inspired by your weekly drvei Torah for years – thank you. At age 33, I became a BT. Lech Lecha was always my favorite parshah, as I felt I had to do the same thing – leave my family, my culture, my peers to take this on. That takes a certain moxie to go against the grain and for that we have Abraham to thank for his spiritual DNA encoded in us all. And then we come up against – If your tablecloth on Friday night isnt white, your kids will never be able to get married. Whaaaat?????? This is my promised land? I dont think so!

    November 9th, 2012 at 8:06 am

  17. Yvette

    Abraham will look at our doing and understanding about religion with compassion and love. He will understand that human being need a lot of fight and challenging in their life to understand finally that the divine is within us.
    Not in judgment, not in the shul.

    November 9th, 2012 at 9:38 am

  18. Yvette

    Abraham will look at our doing and understanding about religion with compassion and love. He will understand that human beings need a lot of fight and it is challenging in there life to understand finally that the divine is within us,
    Not in judgment, not in the shul, not outside us.
    He will teach us that it doesnt mean the fact of only doing mitzvot because we are afraid of punishment; we are able to change, love ourselves, the other and be with G-D every moment in every situation. Thank you for your weekly mail. Yvette

    November 9th, 2012 at 9:38 am

  19. alex

    The role model to follow in quest of an answer to your query is Moses, a spiritual successor to Abraham. Twice he intervened in Egypt, when he saw that if he didnt step in, no one would.
    One of the themes in the Torah is that we are responsible, even if we are alone, and it depends on us to take action.

    November 10th, 2012 at 10:33 pm

  20. Bat Ami

    Abraham would begin to sing a simple little niggun, so charming that it would be irresistable to the bystanders and they all chime in. The fighters come to realize that their actions have a soundtrack and they are looking ridiculous. They begin to laugh and their fight becomes a dance. The singers begin to add laughing sounds to the niggun, ha ha hah and join in the dance. Everyone is laughing and singing and dancing and the fight is over. From then on, whenever a fight breaks out everyone breaks out into song, and if there is still eisek (contention) or any take sides, two competing choirs can form and perform a song and or dance for the neutral bystanders, a judging takes place, and whoever sings/dances the best wins the argument. Who do you think invented song and dance competitions? Abraham!

    November 12th, 2012 at 7:26 am

  21. Tuvia Bolton

    Avraham would have done exactly what the Rebbe in fact did; everything possible to bring peace and Torah…. and they probably would punch him too!

    October 25th, 2013 at 1:53 am

  22. Richard R

    I love you! There is not much more to say. You have an amazing gift for getting to the essence of things.You need to be cloned and via stem cell transplants, transfer that wonderful part of you to others. Shabbat Shalom!

    October 25th, 2013 at 9:02 am

  23. I wonder why would Abraham walk into a shul? After all it as not his habit to follow crowds,he rather waited for people to encounter,and than imparted on them his hospitality and wisdom. Had he happenned to pass any fighting peole:hed probably ask: excuse me,what can I do for you? Please do not hurt one another.let me do something for you.
    And perhaps a soft voice and a big heart wouldve stopped them for a moment,lowered the temperature ,and a possibility of a new perspective mediated by Abraham could ve emerged.

    October 25th, 2013 at 2:24 pm

  24. Barry

    There is a Rabbi who wrote a whole book on praying out of doors. It is called “G-d In the Wilderness” by Rabbi Jamie Korngold. She is called “the Adventure Rabbi.” The Mosaic Outdoor Mountain Club and Mosaic Outdoor Clubs of America once gave a copy of her book to all attendees of their annual Mosaic Outdoor Escape, although it was not called that at the time. A few dozen of us went to Colorado for a weekend with Rabbi Korngold about a month later. Very interesting unrolling a smaller than normal back-packable Torah on the ground and reading from it for services. The main message was that we can be spiritual out in nature. We do not need a plush building to pray. Moses found the “Burning Bush” in nature and took the trouble to investigate it. How many of us would take the trouble? I once investigated a small brush fire in a field and was amazed how it spread and appeared controlled as it moved forward. (No. I did not hear any voices, or at least not until I called the fire department.)
    Was the Hebrews crossing of the Red Sea/Sea of Reeds a miracle of physics or faith, or both? She discusses it in her book.
    The Adventure Rabbi had a Passover Seder in the mountains of Utah along the Colorado Rive and I attended it few years after the Mosaic weekend. If we can’t get to Mt. Sinai in Israel, Colorado is closer, and cheaper. We can observe the same sun and the same moon that the Israelis see, just eight hours later. The rustic experience of living in a tent can also teach us why we moved into trailers, apartments, and houses in the first place.
    I wonder what I am missing when I am out mowing the lawn and don’t have time to investigate all the weeds that I am cutting down. The miracles of creation are all around us.

    Barry

    November 25th, 2016 at 12:20 am

  25. Richard R.

    As usual, I love your writings. If Abraham were alive today, he would be a genetic scientist. He would endeavor to give mankind genetic therapy to correct our dysfunctional behavioral genes with a much higher quality replacement.

    November 25th, 2016 at 3:57 pm

  26. e.d.m.

    Abraham is only loving kindness. Abraham would not be recognized in the same way as in his own time. In fact those who are too kind might be diagnosed with a psychological imbalance today.
    However, if Abraham walked into a Shul today where two men were fighting, acting like animals, he might take a chance to slip in between them with G-d’s help. Didn’t Abraham walk in between a split animal to bring transformation to oneness from separation? These two men who cannot discipline themselves in the Shul, are behaving like animals in the world of anger. Abraham could have effected each one by walking between them. Abraham would also walk between each one’s psychological issue with their own self to heal them.
    The greatest light is in the darkness. Anger and fighting is dark so where is the light? The light is in the capability of each man changing to peace within each one.
    Currently, these two men are separated from each other due to their own inability to transform themselves and I think that in reality, they are really fighting their own self and cannot get out of their own way. They are each really fighting off their own inner child which is not good enough during their childhood days and experiences.
    G-d sends the messenger(the messenger in this case are the two men with each other) They show up to each other to show them repeatedly how they each do not like who they really are hoping a third party can help them find peace with in themselves. It is a very sad circumstance to be in the world of anger. So the resistance to each man is an angry man. Some Shul members thought it was hopeless and do not bother to try.
    If Abraham were alive today, Abraham’s soul would help them. When Abraham walked in between the two fighting men, they would recognize that they were one. They would be enlightened about their individual psychological issue and love who they each were then they would not need the messenger anymore. What did the messenger show them? The messenger showed them that each of these two men were fighting themselves off, really angry at themselves or had grief over some event. Most likely, their parents imprinted their emotional distress onto these two individuals. They are being a distraction to each other to not have to work on themselves.
    Without Abraham’s presence today and because we are in the world of confusion, I would send them each to a life coach to solve their individual psychological issues. Why? Because in today’s world, this is the time of personal hard work and effort to look at your inner child, your behavior patterns from your childhood, your limiting beliefs about yourself. It is the time to rescue yourself to bring organization from your own emotional and behavioral chaos.
    After a life coach session, each man could try to practice peace with each other in Shul. What would they do? They would sit with the discomfort silently with an objective of tolerance in mind and with awareness of their own negativity. Instead of lashing out, they would each learn to value their own discomfort in awareness of their own personal issues and negativity in the depths of their beingness thus grow miraculously from the experience. Instead of fighting, each man would pay attention to himself and then in his own discomfort, he would comfort the inner child who was in fear, anger or grief about what the other man brought up inside him. Eventually, he would thank the messenger.
    A rule in the Shul could be that when two men or women fight that they have to take their fighting outside so the children do not have to witness it. Then if the fighting comes up they already know when someone tells them the rule that they have to go outside. Presumably they would not kill each other when left alone outside . I would trust that they are together enough not to go that far and one of them might wake up and discover that the fighting hurt their body, stop and walk home.

    November 26th, 2016 at 7:33 pm

  27. This is a *magnificent* article and there’s not much more to add…you’ve captured the real essence of the paradox we live in today’s “religious” world. I agree with a comment here from Esther regarding Chazzan – although it may sound superficial, I am Ashkenazi but go to Sephardic shull partially since I am Latin American and love emotions and an amazing chazzan (often found in Sephardic shull but also in a few Beit Chabad like Issaquah/Central Cascades) helps to warm our hearts and soul.

    November 27th, 2016 at 6:17 pm

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