As the old expression goes, practice makes perfect. Changing our longtime attitudes and behaviors can be quite a challenge, but with repetition and consistency – it is possible to make a true change. And by changing our attitude and behavior, we change ourselves.
Say these three life-changing declarations every morning and be confident that slowly, but surely, you too can change.
1. “I Have the Strength to Take On Any Challenge!”
As humans, we naturally do not like being uncomfortable. Many of us will avoid discomfort at any cost. But by avoiding uncomfortable situations, we are doing a great disservice to ourselves. When we forfeit our comfort and break free from our comfort zones, we are then ready to tackle any challenge in front of us. It is by taking on challenges that we grow as people in unparalleled ways.
It is often the most inspirational and successful role-models who have gone through the most trying and challenging of situations. Why is this? It is because those individuals who are ready to take on any challenge, and have confidence that they will find the strength needed are the ones who become what seem like super-human. But here is the secret: we all have a super-human strength that is part of us. Hidden inside of every individual is a super-man or super-woman waiting to be released. It takes only our will and unwavering adamancy to come out from beneath the surface.
Say to yourself every morning: “I have the strength to take on any challenge!” Say it throughout your day when uncomfortable situations that you really want to avoid arise. You are guaranteed to become a truly different and stronger person.
2. “I Have the Power to Tackle Any Negative Temptation!”
The word temptation itself sounds scary, so let’s put it into perspective. Temptations can be our old habits, flaming desires, quick thrills and speedy passions that distract us from moving in a productive direction. Whether it is pressing the snooze button on the alarm clock, or fighting the urge to be dishonest to a co-worker, even the most seemingly minute temptations seem to take over our minds and hearts.
The mystics teach us this: a moment of temptation is a moment of insanity. It is a moment in which logic and reason has abandoned you, and the only thing controlling your actions seems to be the temptation itself. What are you to do? Are you truly powerless?
Of course not! Tap into your super-human and physically take your hands and make a thrust in the air to PUSH AWAY! The mystics also teach us that every negative temptation that lies before us comes with the power to overcome it. Just as the temptation is real – your power to overcome it is real, and this is where you have all the power in your hands to choose.
Say to yourself every morning and anytime a temptation tries to cripple you: “I Have the Power to Tackle Any Negative Temptation!” Do not give up if you fail – keep trying and you will surely defeat your negative temptations.
3. “I am Going to Take a Deep Breath and Rein In My Emotions.”
The carpool to take your children to school is late. You now have to rearrange your morning meetings and your stress level is going up. One of your children reaches across the breakfast table and spills a full container of milk. Everywhere. Your stress level has skyrocketed; there is anger in your veins and tears in your eyes.
Pause. Are you actually crying over spilled milk?
Little annoyances that build up during the day are often out of our control. What is in our control is how we react to them. When we are already frustrated it is easy to see how a person could actually cry over spilled milk. But do you want to be that person?
Emotions are part of us and like to creep up at the most inconvenient of times. But we have the power to rein them in. We can listen to them – but they should always be taken with a grain of salt, as the expression goes. Next time you find yourself about to explode or even cry over spilled milk, say this to yourself: “I am going to take a deep breath and rein in my emotions.” Tap into your self-awareness. Where are you at right now? Now pull yourself into a higher state of awareness, a place where you look at your current situation and emotions from the outside. If this were someone else, what advice would you give to them? How do you think someone else should react? How would like to see yourself react? Now do it. Take a deep breath and always remember what is important in your life.
Adapted by Seymour Dorfman based on the teachings of Rabbi Simon Jacobson.
Exercise: Note an event in your day that you reacted to differently after having made one of the daily declarations. How was it different than your typical reaction/routine? Record your answer in MyMLC.