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Women & Men – Different but Equal?

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After thousands of years of male dominance, we now stand at the beginning of the feminine era, when women will rise to their appropriate prominence, and the entire world will recognize the harmony between man and woman.  — The Rebbe

A couple who was having communication problems came to see the Rebbe. The woman said that her husband was consumed with his work, and that when he finally found time to speak with her, he criticized her and ordered her around. The husband said that his wife had no respect for him and didn’t listen to any of his suggestions.

“Why do you think your wife should listen to you?” the Rebbe asked. “Because a woman must listen to her husband,” he replied.
“But why should a woman listen to her husband?” the Rebbe asked. “Because the man is the master of the house?”

“No,” said the Rebbe. “The first thing that you as a man must follow is the edict that ‘a man should honor his wife more than he does himself.’ And then the righteous woman will have a husband she can respect and love. If the man does not fulfill his role, then it is the woman who must respectfully bring it to his attention.”

Contemporary society is just beginning to delve into the true distinctions between men and women. Besides the obvious physiological differences, there are also differences in the way men and women think, speak, and behave.

In order to understand the essential nature of man and woman, we must do away with human subjectivity and look through G-d’s eyes. Every human being, man and woman, was created for the same purpose — to fuse body and soul in order to make themselves and their world a better and holier place. In their service of G-d, there is absolutely no difference between a man and a woman; the only difference is in the way that service manifests itself.

What are the differences between men and women?

Man and woman represent two forms of divine energy; they are the male and female elements of a single soul.

G-d is neither masculine nor feminine, but has two forms of emanation: the masculine form, which is more aggressive, and the feminine form, which is more subtle. For a human being to lead a total life, he or she must have both forms of energy: the power of strength and the power of subtlety; the power of giving and the power of receiving. Ideally, these energies are merged seamlessly.

Men are physically stronger. By nature, they are usually more aggressive and externally oriented. In contrast, a woman usually embodies the ideal of inner dignity. Some people confuse such subtlety with weakness; in truth, it is stronger than the most aggressive physical force imaginable. True human dignity does not shout; it is a strong, steady voice that speaks from within. The nature of a woman, while subtle, is not weak. And the nature of a man, while aggressive, is not brutish. For man and woman to be complete, they must each possess both energies.

The answer is not for men and women to try to be alike. All men and women must be themselves, realizing that G-d has given each of us unique abilities with which to pursue our goals, and that our primary responsibility is to take full advantage of those abilities.

What is true liberation for both sexes?

Though feminism rightfully calls for the end of male domination and abuse, and for equal rights for women, it is vital to get to the root of the distortion — that our focus in life, as man or woman, must not be simply to satisfy our own ego or needs, but to serve G-d. True women’s liberation does not mean merely seeking equality within a masculine world, but liberating the divine feminine aspects of a woman’s personality and using them for the benefit of humankind.

After so many years of male dominance, we are standing at the threshold of a true feminine era. It is time now for the woman to rise to her true prominence, when the subtle power of the feminine energy is truly allowed to nourish the overt power of the masculine energy. We have already proven that we can use our strength to slay the demons around us; let us now learn to nurture the G-dliness within.


Men and women must realize their respective equal roles and strive to complement each other in their shared struggle to improve life. In order to correct the abuse of male dominance, men must concentrate on using their dominant qualities for the good. They must use their strength to protect and preserve the feminine character, helping women realize their true potential in revealing  G-dliness, which the world so desperately needs today.

Learn about what it means to be a man or a woman, about masculine and feminine energy. Learn to live up to your potential, to balance these energies to lead a productive and meaningful life — a G-dly life. And finally, learn to appreciate and respect your male or female counterpart.

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134 Responses to “Women & Men – Different but Equal?”

  1. John Doe

    Women today Aren’t like the good old days at all unfortunately.

  2. Gwynneth

    Men are not physically stronger than women, science just proved that men are the weaker sex. And saying that men are naturally more aggressive and that women are naturally more subtle is only talking stereotypes. So much for telling men and women to be themselves…

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  4. Foreign Love Web

    Based on Mark Davis of “Dream Connections” agency, a man and a woman must be equal and fair with each other.

    They are different physically, mentally, and emotionally.

    But, they are both human, eternal, imperfect, sinful, and held responsible for their actions, words, and thoughts especially by God.

    If they want their relationship to work, they must have equality, honesty, communication, and other godly qualities.

  5. Ssmnsn

    Both should be treated equally

  6. MatthewRoami

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  7. charlie

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  8. DuduRip

    אני משווק של היבואן הרשמי של סמסונג .

    אני פונה באופן אישי לעסקים שלדעתי יהיו מעונינים בפריבילגיה

    לגבי הדגם החדש של סמסונג


    האם אפשרי לשוחח בטלפון ?

  9. Andrew

    Why can’t we just be equal

  10. jared

    do woman earn less than men for equal work
    is it true most rural woman are unemployed

  11. lynn oliver

    The belief boys should be strong allows aggressive treatment from infancy so they will be tough. There is less verbal interaction support for fear of coddling. This creates high, maintained layers of average stress for boys (new thought will send to all). These layers remain in the mind taking away real mental energy from academics so they will have to work harder to receive the same mental reward. This treatment creates emotional distance of others. It creates lags in communication girls are given daily. The high stress creates activity for stress relief not genetics. This creates higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting motivation. The effect with false genetic models creates more failure and hopelessness. To make it tougher boys are given love honor feelings of self-worth only on condition of achievement. This was designed to keep Male esteem low and be willing to give their lives in war for love honor from society. Males not achieving are given ridicule and discipline to make them try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling. Many boys falling behind turn their attention to sports and video games for small measures of love honor not received in school. The belief boys should be strong and false belief in genetics create denial of the harsh treatment which is creating the low academics low esteem and other problems for boys. This is not about more openness from boys; it is about society allowing aggressive treatment from infancy so boys feel much wariness toward parents teachers who freely use aggressive treatment for any sign of weakness. This is condoned by society. This problem is affecting all male children but the lower the socioeconomic bracket and time in lower areas the much more amplified the treatment given male children by parents/teachers.
    As girls we are given much support and care by parents teachers peers. As girls we are treated better and so enjoy support from society. Since we as girls are given by differential treatment much mental social/emotional support verbal interaction and care this creates the opposite outcome for girls when compared with boys. We receive love honor simply for being girls. This creates all of the good things. We have lower average stress for ease of learning. We enjoy much freedom of expression from much protection by society. We enjoy lower muscle tension for ease in writing motivation to write. We enjoy much positive trust/communication from parents teachers and support for perceived weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. Now with girls and women taking over many areas of society we enjoy more lavishing of love honor from society while boys and men are now failing more and are given more ridicule and abuse by society. Mind you this is now coming from girls and women using our still protected freedoms of expression and more with false feelings of superiority.

  12. shreyas gowda

    it is very nice ,

    male and female are equal in india

  13. Hasti

    Tnx for your perfect article .

  14. M.s

    It help us to distinguish between both male and female.

  15. M.s

    It’s really nice .

  16. R_U

    thank this really helped a lot with writing my essay

  17. Sophia

    I am doing a project for women in the military and looking for an equal quality about men and women’s physical build. Could anyone help me?

  18. Jayashree

    Thnx for your article

  19. The C

    Dreamt of a sweet, caring, compassionate, forgiving, woman who is oriented with God’s will and willing to submit to His plan for her life.

    Married a woman who is type-A and very career and academically oriented. She has become pretty frequently foul-mouthed and opinionated, doubtful of the Bible and questioning of everything in it, severely untrusting of the church, and with lengthy periods with nothing but criticism for me.

    I love my wife but my heart longs for her to be like the person I dreamed of.

  20. Neyona monisha

    Tqs a lot dis topic helped me a lot …for my debate

  21. Callie

    he owed any thing in his time and seniority rights to lower seniority just because they or momy and daddy had some kind of community position, Did it say in the nations or states constitution he had rights any less than those of any one else< Did it say any where except in my mercenary mind and his fathers good old boy network that he was to be a slave, work first to last light, and his father said he had one other option if he felt that way, He could have vanished and gone dark, My husband said He earned the life he was supposed to have why should he live like a fugitive, no name cash only jobs, no social security or pension, or even a 401 k because I could take it all when it was discovered where he was at. So In 2013 we were moved with my mothers and his help 1230 miles to the west, in 2014 after the birth of our son we went back to sell and get the rest of what was left leaving our four month old with my mother out west. Things with that return went real bad.

    Within two days my husband told his father that the house was still his house, that the equipment being used for a memorial day cook out was his ands the food that was going to be served he had bought, he was not taking 200 dollars and going any where, and the only person that went any where with me was him, That day was the destruction of 32 years of tradition, starting with his staying then the taking of the reservation for me and his fathers best friend and then my husband breaking his fathers jaw after he backhanded his son telling him he would just do as he was told, My husband backhanded his father across the kitchen and took me to the club himself. Where he proved he could be a barbarian with any one when the doorman pushed him into the street refusing entry. All everyone saw the second the doorman's foot hit a public sidewalk pushing was the doormans face slamming into the pavement and my husbands knee going into his spine. That's when I realized that there was not going to be a peace with my husband with any body there.

    All I ask any more is what else were we to do with the kind of defiance shown, Should I have just let him do as he pleased and had the life he wanted watching the chaos he would create in its wake or did I do the right thing choosing his fathers and society's route, Its apparent the courts now back my husband, we have not completely stopped him in his tracks for years, I and his father were jailed over taking his reservations in May of 2009 we have both been under home arrest for trying to hold him from doing more damage to lives. And I don't even want to go back after his parents died.

  22. Callie

    My husband of 35 years never would talk through the role he was to play in the Community and family. He wanted all of his rights to be as equal as everyone else. To the point that for long periods of time we had to keep him from just taking those right through both blackmail, and legal means to keep him from harming others in the community with what he could take in those rights. Like the vacation times he wanted, the holidays he wanted, even the weekends he wanted had to be denied for fear that the first time he had a marital life or time off he would take all that was due him by a UAW contract, causing others to miss out on life dreams and needs.

    He became violent in 2001 in taking what was due him. Many have been hurt over the last 17 years with his absolute thought he had the control over his own life without considering others needs.

    In 2001 Over a job bid he took over the need of 4 of the societies younger leaders he left them on our front porch and in the street as critical care patients in a display of combat arts that nobody had ever witnessed before, it took less than one minute after the county commissioners son took the first swing to get my husband to back off a job bid him and three his friends took over the socialy higher sons in the community.

    Then in 2009 we were trying to get him to wait for his first vacation since 1976, just 210 more days instead of hurting us over canceling his Orient express trip with me to let a young man with 32 years less seniority have his and his new brides honeymoon. He dislocated and tore the ACL in my shoulder to get the Refund check his father and I got for cancelling his trip, then it took seven men to stop him from strangling his father to death over his passport we were going to give TSA to hold until our flight was in the air. He still had to go work since the younger man was not going in, My husband and other seniority had him marched out of the plant terminated his first day back, Me and his father were in County lockup for 2 months for acting as false agent in canceling his vacation plans even though we had arranged a five week vacation beginning January the second 2010 as his time off instead of the two weeks on the Express in June july.

    We could never get him to take the mind winter times offered instead of when everyone else wanted their vacations. HE just said here’s the contract and here’s my hire date, does it say there that

  23. Justin

    I would like to know if this was written based on how society views men and women or how God views men and women. I would also like to know where in the bible you have pulled your information from since this article states God.

  24. Raghu Nath Reddy Budda

    Really. Why only men should take the provider role? Even though some women are working. Taking the provider role from working is different. 50% bills women must pay. But how many women are paying.

    Marriage. Men should have property, men should have high salary, men should more height than women, men should more status etc. If men are lessor of any thing than women, No women will marry such men. So everything at the cost of man, man’s parents.

    House work: Even men are doing house work.

    When man is bringing his property into the marriage, how many women are bringing, we can count on fingers.

    Provider role is forced on men. That is the reason men death rate three times higher compare to women.

    Indian family laws are women oriented.

    Why man should pay the maintenance in case of divorce? How come man is responsible? It is the women and women responsibility to have education. It is the women parents responsibility to give the property to the women.

    50% domestic violence happening on men. 95% cases filed by women on husbands are false. 75% false rape cases.

    When man is treated as ATM , how come dowry is a crime?

  25. vanessa

    brooo this helped me sm on my highschool essay i got an A ahhhahahh yay 😉

  26. ven

    Can someone tell me who wrote this please?

  27. Supu

    But nowadays women are treating equal in the and sometimes women also take advantage of their rights .

  28. Stacy

    In Canada Women and Men are all most equel

  29. Truth

    Quite a change in the women of today unfortunately compared to the women of years ago that were so much nicer with a much better personality as well. What in the world happened to them today?

  30. shubhm

    male and female are a equel in india.

  31. Shamsher

    Hi, good topic is under discussing behind the every successful man there is woman. she always motivates him,supports him and even sacrifice for him many times.

  32. jashan

    I realy like this topic and it helps me a lot in my work thnks

  33. ananya

    thanks a lot.this helped me a lot for my speech.i got a lot of applause from the class and i was at the top of the class

  34. Andy

    Thank you for your topic

  35. Andy

    It is not impossible for one to understand the other. We all suffer the burden we are able to bear. One is not greater than another. Each complements the other. Identify as humans, as humanity. Understand another’s burden, so understand your own. If you can. 6 valid points? Your father and mother, and theirs. Or the question could not be asked.

  36. The Very Truth Of All

    Well with many women having a Career making a six figure income which they’re doing much better than many of us men make.

  37. Lexi


  38. Briana

    When writing an essay on women discrimination, writers should look at the history. Their argument should be based on verifiable statistics. The information should be discussed in the concept of social economic consequences. Discrimination against women is one of the major societal problems over time now. It has brought major impact learning, domestic life, and community institutions as well. This challenge has been an issue globally. There has been a perception that women belong to certain professions for example; in nursing, teaching, and secretarial work.

  39. mohammde

    hallo dear siblings actually the narrator touch us cuze the man and women it is the paradoxical issue and controversial topic i appeal all of you to respect the women in view of nowadays the women faces a lot of obstacle in her life .so we should respect the women and give her all the women right… indeed dear brother’s and sister’s in this amazing issue ,i want to put my speech to and end by saying .you are worth my candle so thank you and that is all

  40. ab

    thanks all are created in the image of god

  41. David

    Thank s all are Created in the image of God

  42. naz

    it helped meee thanks

  43. TheTruth

    I really do miss having the Good old fashioned women around since Most of them were the Best compared to today.

  44. Rebecca

    Thank you 4 helping me with my debate:)

  45. bradley albus

    as far as I understand it, people use G-d as a way to avoid possibly using the Lord’s name in vain, which would break the 3rd commandment.

    i think there is probably some merit to this idea, seeing how this is a mundane (on the scale of creation and everything holy) internet blog…. and using the name of the Lord is pretty pointless here.

    So by using G-d, we can not only avoid using the name in vain, but the jarring use of the hyphen can at the same time perhaps remind us as we read along, that the Lord’s name is holy, something that is easy to forget in our day to day struggle in this human condition.

    harmony & blessings, i’m not jewish but dang if it aint fun to see and hear different perspectives and consider alternate possibilities.

  46. sailov kashyap

    As a man I respect women, they will always be equal to me as men.

  47. Mercy

    Thanx but l want valid point at least six points both sides

  48. Emma

    Is G-d supposed to mean god?Why do you spell it like that? Why do you even mention ‘God’,you know he’s not real right?

  49. Jamie

    Men and women are equal. Just like black and white are equal. Just like straight and gay are equal.

  50. sam

    Thanks a lot . it helped me a lot in my essay

  51. Maddawg

    Thanks this really helped with my essay! 🙂

  52. SnP

    Great article.
    I don’t know much about the situation in other areas but where I’m from even today men and women are far from being on equal footing here. Many of the well educated urban population still believes that women are inherently born to serve man. Women can be as ambitious as they desire and climb as high as they want on the corporate ladder, but the moment a woman is married she is reduced to nothing more than a glorified servant for her husband. Even if a woman has a job it somehow falls on her to come back home after working at the office all day and do all the housework. Some men often find it insulting somehow to do household chores – “women’s work”.
    A huge part of the problem is not even about equal opportunity or differences between men and women. It’s about a basic level of respect which must exist between all human beings. [Most] men don’t respect women to the same level as men and hence treat them as inferior. The worst part is that women let them do so.

  53. diana guillen

    thanks :*b lol it was cool

  54. LK

    A great article. Thanks.

  55. Amazing girl

    I beleive that men and women are equal now because many goverments have both male and female representative and many important laws have been passed to ensure equality in the working place

  56. Cecilia Abello Gipulan

    Thanks a lot for this. It really helped for my research project.

  57. Ronald makombore

    Man and women are equal in front of God and in terms of reasoning but are not designed to perform equally. A woman is designed to be loved and a man is designed to love and protect so the two cannot be equal.

  58. nafeel nadeer

    Thanks a lot. It really helped me a lot for my debate. Thank you very much for this valuable article!

  59. david brown

    It is true that women are now important in society, but we are very different in some categories.

  60. yunusa liman jega

    Men and women are characteristically different only to a certain extent.The differences make each unique and also indispensable to each other.

  61. nutan

    Nice, its truly important for every woman to become self dependent and make her identity in society. A woman should not be seen just as a home maker instead they should be given equal opportunities to serve society and nation. Only then male dominating society will convert into lovely cooperative society of both energies..and gd means god.

  62. Prachi Mundai

    Men and women are both equal irrespective of their physical appearances.
    My question is that what does this Gd mean????

  63. Prachi Mundai

    Men and women are both equal irrespective of their physical appearances.

  64. Dipanjali

    True! Whatever women do, cant be laughed at by calling them weak, every work done in a society has some obvious inevitable purpose. But I agree with pat, they cant be so different, huh! There are more imposed differences than natural.

  65. soumika

    yes women and men are equal because whatever a women learns she passes down to her children ,educating a women is also beneficial to men because she can use her knowledge to help her father, brother, son, husband etc.

  66. abdo

    I dont Think so

  67. Amanue.A

    really great point. It is the first day that I totally become able to believe that the characters in women are not weak. Are very indispensable to make men life complete.

  68. Anita

    This article is spot on from my opinion, Men and women are naturally different in physical strength and emotional strength, they think differently, even dress differently, speak with differnet voice and pitch and their whole internal system body and mind is different so with this in mind there is a purpose for those differences and their social rights cannot be the same but can benefit eachother and society!!!!!

  69. pat

    The differences between men and women are more socially constructed since childhood by pressure of the society & parents to conform to what they think men and women should be (

    There are sadly many pseudo researches from bad scientists on women / men differences that are unable to see through gender stereotypes. If they cant do that they should refrain doing these studies

  70. Dave

    Hi, interesting article topic. It astonishes me that the arguement of men and women being different but equal does not crop up more often in more mainstream blogs. It is an obvious fact. I think, speaking in a metaphysical jargon, that men and women are the same creature, human, but made out of different wavelengths of time, light, etc…
    Thats probably why we have the same parts, biologically speaking, but they are used to a lesser or greater degree between the sexes.

  71. Femil

    In my view point a women shouldnot be like a candle burning in a dark room.

  72. Yes it is true that men are physically stronger but both men and women are mentally strong yes I also believe that women have equal rights but I see on the Internet and TV that women try out for men baseball (this is an example) and men are forced to let them tryout but then I saw a man try out for softball but they didnt even let him try out.

  73. Rafaqat Hussain Babar

    women and men are equal in every field it is my thought

  74. Neuro

    In marriage, it can be said that both are equal, ONLY when regarding the importance of the DIFFERENT roles given to the Husband and Wife can one say that they are equal. However the arrangement of a family goes that the man is the head, the wife supports her husband and must be loved and cared for by him. The wife cannot overtake the Husbands role of headship or this is breaking the moral structure of Marriage apart. On a more general level, Women are stronger in certain areas whether it be involving children, etc. However Men are dominant in strength and can withstand a lot more physical trauma than women. But does that mean that they are better in general than the other? No. Put simply we are not better in a whole, but we lack in some areas and dominate in others.

  75. Human

    I mean no harm but your bring up the topic of certain roles that a man and women should embrace and yet you fail to recognize that these roles are brought on by society and not always the individual. As a boy is told to be a man or a girl to be lady-like you are defining a large number of people into two categorize. Now back when there were cavemen these roles were essential for survival. Now it is not needed, and i believe we should look at the individuals skills and how that can benefit the human race. You also bring up how a man is aggressive and dominant and how a women is subtle and has inner integrity. Yet you fail to give any accurate facts that support your claim on the entire human populous. Now you may be talking in general but still generally the world has changed and continues to change to were man and women are just humans, in all their glory and faults. I am not claiming to be a professional on this topic, or that what you are saying is evil or bad. I just wish to show you my view on the topic and how it relates to your article.

  76. LISSA


  77. True Justice

    This article is ridiculous.

    Men have less rights and are treated in a more discriminatory manner then women.

    From down to divorce where 86% of the times the woman gets the children, she gets a larger percentage of the assets and recieves alimony for the REST OF HER LIFE. Putting the man down, keeping him bankrupt and in debt for the rest of his life.

    In addition to that women are MUCH MORE likely to get away with murder of a man or spouse, they can simply claim mistreatment even without evidence in most cases. They can have the sentance dismissed or moved down to manslaughter.

    This is a joke, absolute joke. Imagine if a man hits a woman, the outcry! But if a woman hits a man YOU GO GIRL!!. More men are subjected to domestic abuse then women, yet NO ONE! Talks about that.

    Why cant we celebrate our differences? Rather then trying to achieve the impossible. We think differently, were differently psyichally down to our organs, body shape, strength, size and so forth.

  78. Neena

    Man and woman is equal. Man and man alone has created the inequality that leads to these discussions.

  79. The purpose of Human has nothing to do with souls.

  80. aon,dha,tri...

    Why have you written God like G-d?

  81. endashaw samuel

    when we see women in terms of strength and communication skill the are not equal with men,why?

  82. Emma

    I think that men and women should be treated equally as members of society. If someone is able bodied, able minded and willing, they should be able to contribute to society. If theyre a woman, and they want to stay at home and have children, thats OK too; but many people strive to be educated and make a difference. I for one plan to do a job to do with law when Im older (Im a 14 year old girl). The only way that society will grow stronger is if every person helps, be it man or woman, black or white, anything. We shouldnt discriminate, were all human beings after all.

  83. sara fehr

    The rebbe is definitely right. Usually the man disrespects the wife and he doesnt usually listen to his wifes comments or concerns. I dont think that women are better; Im just stating the facts.

  84. kenSale

    On the question of equality of men and women,I feel we are becoming more and more confused by this mantra. Humans have all the basically the same needs,food and sustenance,a need for shelter and its attendant extras,the need to propagate and produce offspring and so increase their own genes.But most of all all humans need more than equality in that they require respect and care in equity throughout their brief span of life as well as encouragement to achieve their intellectual rights and understanding, So often the latter is stunted by this secular so called democratic societys attitude to a fully human right of action and survival.

  85. Bahor

    I study at the university, and today we had a conversation about this topic. I am from Uzbekistan (Central Asia). yet, it is somehow different in my country from Western countries… men think women is not equal with them. Perhaps, it can be true in our region… But my belief is that Asian people also should acclaim that it is going to be equal in our country too.. unfortunately, they dont want it

  86. diana

    I agree with what the Rabbe said in the story and with the whole comment that followed. I hope we all come to realize that we are good as we are and we should be gentle with the man or woman beside us. May G-d inlighten our minds!

  87. Jay Taylor

    Or how about we need each other. Each with respect to the other sexes roles. I dont know about you but it seems this whole vendetta against men equality is as one sided and ignorant as the actions against woman. This book however seems to be getting at the heart of the issue and I will give it a read.

  88. anonymous lady

    Also, women complain that men make more money than them.. since when have they become so selfish? If your man is making more money than you, there is no problem, honey! Remember that youll have to have kids one day, and take a year off to raise them. You wont then be complaining about how your husband makes more than you! That money will come in handy for diapers and food.

    I am by NO means a housewife. I am getting my MA right now and plan to go far in life (that is, I want to become successful), but women need to stop complaining! We have it so good right now. With education, we have rights, power.. why is everyone so impressed that as a woman I am getting an MA and I am ambitious? Because, lets face it: educated, intelligent and beautiful women are a commodity! Its no surprise when I was younger my parents and grandparents always said: educate yourself and become successful; an educated and beautiful woman in this world has more power than any of her male counterparts.

    Dont complain!

  89. Anonymous

    I dont think women have it worse than men, especially in Western society where they can either choose to stay home or to work.. and if they choose to work, plenty of intelligent men are willing to share the house-work.

  90. MSK

    I believe that women and men should be treated equally in society. There arent many things that are different between men and women other than their physical properties. Something that I found interesting is that: in the word women there is men, in the word she there is he, in the word female there is the word male. This just shows how in society, it used to be thought that women wouldn’t be able to survive without a man in her life. But i believe that today men are starting to change their point of view and understand that women should be treated equally with them. As once said, Behind every great man, theres a great woman. and a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. The society should be able to understand that women dont need men to survive and they have the potential to do the same things as men do.
    Some people may say that women are weaker and have fewer abilities than men. People believe that men are more intellectually successful in the world. But that is not true. Although this has come to realization a little late, women are starting to get more positions (job) than men are.
    Within the past few years, women have lost 1.66 million jobs overall while men have lost about 4.75 jobs overall. Women outpaced men in getting jobs in the health care and government sectors. Women accounted for 79% of jobs gained in health care and 94% in government. The unemployment for women is 2% while for men it is 29%. These statistics show how women are starting to gain control. Women aren’t the weaker gender any longer. All men and women are created equal.

  91. baraa

    I think men and women should be equal in all rights because theyre both human beings. Thats why the women have to get their rights like the men even if they can only get the half of their rights.

  92. MSK

    I believe that women and men should be treated equally in society. There arent many things that are different between men and women other than their physical properties. Something that I found interesting is that: in the word women there is men, in the word she there is he, in the word female there is the word male. This just shows how in society, it used to be thought that women wouldnt be able to survive without a man in her life. But i believe that today men are starting to change their point of view and are understanding that women should be treated equally with them. As once said, Behind every great man, theres a great woman. and a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. The society should be able to understand that women dont need men to survive and they have the potential to do the same things as men do.

  93. ayushi garg

    hiiiii….. Im a student of rcvgit … i got this topic 4 my debate competition and i m in favour of the statement and i thnk in todays senerio both men n women are equal in all aspects expect the physicals…… bcoz today almost all the parents love thr daughter more than thr sons… i m also one of them.. bcoz i have to young brothers but my parents love me more …. and today i can say that all girls are equally educated as boys… but in my case im more educated than my brothers .. my fater invest more in me as compared to my brothers…. thanks….

  94. jackie

    so very interesting

  95. meliha

    hey..i am a student in EMU and we have a debate topic: are men equal to women?… i say they are but ladies i need help!! i need really convincing reasons!! thank you

  96. God

    I almost got into your little story until i realised that I in no way act like that with my wife and yet we still have problems. And another thing you gave a pretty poor example on The Man being so dominent over the poor woman when really it can go both ways.
    and instead of this whole god like person called g-d or whatever peolple, Not men or women need to work together to overcome because men are both brutes and gentlemen, just like women are both harlots and ladies. It just comes down to who we choose to be. So stop pretending every man is some brute and every women is some goddess when really we are just human.

  97. chiffmonkey

    You can place one material in one side of a set of scales and and entirely different material on the other side, and still get the scales to show they are equal. Just because men seem to dominate the world in certain aspects, women dominate the world in other aspects. And gender is not just a simple cut line in the sand, one side or the other, though it may seem it. Hermaphrodites and dual gender chimaeras are living proof of that, but also see that some people fit their gender more than others (like girls that like being cutesy or tomboys). Also sexuality seems to be linked with being effeminate or emasculinate (Not to be confused with emasculate :P).

  98. sarika solanki

    i dodnt think that men and women are given equal right.women are discriminated in the society. women are not also educated and well maintained in the society

  99. Haze

    Hi taoandzen, I really liked your comment. Am enlightened..

  100. theourn

    I like the concept of the tittle.

  101. taoandzen

    Its funny when people say men and women are different they all talk about external things, and if you define who you are by external things then you havent done much work in unlearning the things you learned or in other words addressing all the disfunctional ways we have been conditioned which keeps us that much further from the truth of anything we might want to understand, We are all the same we all want to know what it is to Love and be loved and we are all looking for it in the wrong places, If we actually take the time to understand what Love truly is then we will have greater insight into ourselves and how we are the same. Whether you can do the same job or not is not what makes us the same or different, thats just shallow thinking and something i would not really call it thinking because there is no depth and very little reflection.
    If you look in depth you will see that we are all the same and what appears to be diffences is the result of not seeing oneself an other or the situation with greater depth, either you want to understand whats up or you just want to keep perpetuating this mindless aproach to life that most people settle for. We should want to understand ourselves better then any psychologist , sociologist, philosopher or spiritual teacher. how interesting it is to observe and particate in the process of evolution.
    Ones true identity is to be found in unconditional Love where one is selfless and free from the disunity that comes from getting lost in the illusions that duality presents and the ego feeds off of. Unconditional Love and selflessness is where ones true identity is to be found, You then have an experience of self that has nothing to do with gender and the essence of all things begin to reveal themselves to you and life which you are a manifestation of reveals a depth to itself that is worth opening ones eyes to.

  102. Patrick

    I really like the article,, but I think I cant never fall in love women anymore in the future because I dont really like women who could anything on what they want,,, because if women takes over too much power, then women will not look like a lady. It means that they will ask boys out and wow, everything will be upside down.

  103. Tommy Hargrove

    MEN are logically oriented,while WOMEN, are emotionally oriented.They are soulishly different,physically different,but spiritually equal.Yet, as snowflakes,each man and each woman,is an original;makes you wonder,how great their Creator must be!

  104. Jane

    This is such a great artical, Ive heard so much about gender equality, that men and women should be equal, that women should try to be like men and try to do whatever man can. However, these things, according to me, are just telling a woman to define herself by what she is not. Trying to be like a man does not mean equality, definitely. I do like the way you define equality in this artical 🙂 Wish you the best!

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  106. Janet South Africa

    Man has an innate desire to have dominion over something. Thats the way we were created to have dominion over Gods created world [both man and woman]. The problem comes when we try to extend that dominion over fellow man using whichever chosen method. This can be in terms of inequality in treatment in the market place or in the home. Though different, our desires are the same; love, significance and acceptance. Man and woman are diffinately equal but different and we must look at ways of harnessing these differences in order to unleash the greater force for good that results from serving one another. As the rabbi said we must seek to use our strength to up lift one another, and to bring about the greater good for all. Whatever different abilities we have been endored with must be used to support others to reach their highest potential. Our differences must be seen as resources at our disposal that we can use to not only benefit us but fellow man. We are all on this journey called life therefore let us not seek to have dominion over each other no matter which sex we belong rather let us seek to serve God in serving one another. This way our world will be a better place. A wise man once said Great people desire to bring greatness our of others but small people put the same limits on others that they have put on themselves. Thank you Rabbi for enriching all of us.

  107. sollum

    men and women are different according to the various religion but,both are same in humanity of God

  108. it was very good

  109. yalda

    I think men and women should accept they have different ability ,but at the end they are the same.

  110. Well I think that men and women should both be treated the same way. Men may be better physically but women are definitely better mentally!

  111. clairema

    Thank you for your article, it was very interesting & helpful in some ways.

    However I saddened to read some of the commenters statements. Whilst some were nice & made appropriate statements, others were so negative & I truly to God wonder who/what/when/where/how etc they feel justified to write their remarks, especially those claiming to be speaking from a Biblical point of view. Read the Bible fully, interpret the texts, learn ancient Hebrew, Greek & Aramaic, define your understandings of the authority of the Bible, get your facts straight about the Trinity, next study human genes & Biology. Maybe you should then make your comments about men & women. Your remarks are not only hypocritical, arrogant, judgemental & narrow minded but are completely ignorant. Once again thank you for the article & for the positive comments & for the encouraging feminist freedom ideals justified with Biblical authority. Sorry to those who feel so much hatred or a lack of morals that they feel they can speak of women such degrading ways!

  112. Aswath

    I accept. Men and Women are mentally equal however not physically. Ultimately Men is more capable than Woman. Im not a male chauvinist.

  113. Mahmoud

    Thank you. Yes, we seem to be the same yet we weer created different. Sweet combination, I belive. We cant merge and we cant part. Each has its own qualities yet both need each other. Unlike poles attract. With out those qualities, life would be useless. I appreciciate you writings. Please write more. Thank you.

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  115. Lauren and ALexxx

    thanx so much you have really help me and my partner with our language arts debate on both sides this was a really great resource for us so thanks again lauren and alexxx


  116. Amna

    this article really helped me in writing my english debate….thnx!!!

  117. PJ

    It is interesting how the arguments marxism which is anti G-d are now being used to corrupt religious belief.

    If men and women are equal then men should have the right to give birth and be actually able to.

    I will give the analogy of Lucifer wanting to be (become) G-d and ask you to compare this to women wanting to become (like) men, this eqaulity debate has become infested with spurious arguments.

  118. oyeket

    thank you so much for your article. I think that if we as people put GOD in the center of our lives that we would learn to appreciate and respect each other. The article was written very well and it is imformative.

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  120. muscat

    To commentator C, although in Western countries it seems like women abuse men nowadays, it is still the other way around elsewhere.

    Where I live, educated women lead a career-life and are forced to be independent, but in the end they still have to be a mother and wife who cooks for the family. A cooking men shows incapable housewives.

    We have to remember that physically we are weaker, but we were created with better intelligence (has it not been for the boys-only education system in the past, there would be less male CEOs nowadays). These results in behind the screen women roles whereby we still stand beside husbands to assist in family funding, and 70% of our decision-making are unheared of.

    Discrimination against female is still everywhere.
    An example: When a man has an affair, women has to forgive them. The society sees him as a woman-pleaser.
    But when a woman has an affair, men cant forgive them. And the society sees her as a cheap woman.

    Humbly I think behind the screen role may befit us due to our physical and past restrictions, but loyalty from the husband is very demanded from. They have to realize that the 1-woman-in-a-lifetime concept is important because throughout our roles (no matter what it is), we have weaknesses and emotional swings too, and since we have all vowed for together forever or whatever under holy matrimony, we have to really fulfill this vow in real life.

    I think the biggest problem is actually the moral-value in society itself. Example: People having affair everywhere and thats a bad influence to our daily life and psychology. We think it is ok, when it is not, no matter what gender you are.

    And, it is really not good to abuse any gender whichever it is.

  121. nuala2828

    Thanks for this it helped with an Religious studies question v. helpful

  122. C

    Personally, I think that although feminism was a good idea from the start; it has gone too far. We are now beginnning to become dominant and abusive towards men. It seems that we can discriminate, however, they cannot. Think of it, we have womens athletic clubs, however not men. If there is a problem with money in sports, mens sports must go first, not womens. Even though womens sports do not bring near the profit of mens. I am proud to be a woman, however, I consider this something that we shouldnt be proud of. We want to become better and stronger, not have it brought to us on a silver platter. We are strong, and we have to prove it, not whine and stomp our feet that its not equal. We have to make our attack slowly and without a lot of attention. Walk softly and carry a big stick.

  123. mary

    thnx alot for the really helped me in my assignment..specially the beginning is superb..The way u started the topic is marvellous..i really like it..

  124. karthika

    thanks for the info which has been put up here,it helped me to gather points for my assignment,you could also concentrate on the SOCIAL ROLES of men and women.that would be more helpfull.thanks

  125. rose

    there are many things that we cannot change but learn to accept.

  126. rachel

    thanks for your infomation.coz u help me a lot in my assignment.

  127. Christine Sullivan

    I am a college student and I am trying to find scriptural statements from the Torah about the equality of men and woment. I also would like to find scriptural statements on insubordination of women in the Torah. I am in a Comparative Religions course at Chico State California. Need for term paper. Thanks so very much!

  128. sp

    OMG this article helped me loads on my essay… essay was about the famous quote all men are created equal…we had to debate on how it plays a role in todays society….so i found this site…n its awesome!! thankz again!

  129. Vakasuva Anderson Katjizeu

    I want valid points for and against the motion which reads;THE HOUSE BELIEVES THAT MEN AND WOMEN ARE EQUAL .I need atleast 6 points in each side.

  130. Nic Clifford

    Thank you also. It was great in helping me with my English work.

  131. Mehmet Onur Sezgun

    I was interested in knowing why in some texts the authors would ommit the letter o in God. Thank you for your explanation. I agree that the words are only our interpretation of what we perceive (or what we think we perceive) and would create different images in different peoples minds. Regards.

  132. Flytha

    Thank you for helping me with my debate

  133. this really helped me with my essay…thanks!

  134. A.M.

    Why in the world would someone leave the o out of God? What in the world is the point of that? Ive seen writers lowercase the g in God, to make a point that this being is not worthy of capitalization, but no o? What is that all about?

    Dear A.M.
    The reason we write G-d (with a hyphen) is out of reverence. In order to distinguish from every other element in existence that has a name and description. The Zohar (classical work of Kabbalah, Jewish mysticism) states that G-d is not (even) alluded to, not by any name nor by any symbol. For G-d to be G-d and not another creation in our own image, we must always feel that G-d is above and beyond all our words and definitions. This allows us to aspire and live up to the Divine image in which we were created.

    Simon Jacobson

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