There nothing as whole as a broken heart.
Depression is not a sin. But what depression does, no sin can do.
Chassidic teaching differentiates between two types of sorrow: merirus, a constructive grief, and atzvus, a destructive grief.
Is sad bad? Chassidic teaching differentiates between two types of sorrow: merirus
, a constructive grief, and atzvus
, a destructive grief.The first is the distress of one who not only recognizes his failings but also cares about them. One who agonizes over the wrongs he has committed, over his missed opportunities, over his unrealized potential. One who refuses to become indifferent to what is deficient in himself and his world. The second is the distress of one who has despaired of himself and his fellow man, whose melancholy has drained him of hope and initiative.
The first is a springboard for self-improvement; the second a bottomless pit.
How does one distinguish between the two? The first is active, the second—passive.
The first one weeps, the second’s eyes are dry and blank. The first one’s mind and heart are in turmoil, the second’s are still with apathy and heavy as lead. And what happens when it passes, when they emerge from their respective bouts of grief? The first one springs to action: resolving, planning, taking his first faltering steps to undo the causes of his sorrow. The second one goes to sleep.