Daily Affirmation: Birth Is G-d Saying You Matter

September 19th, 2017

Topic: Know Your Worth

If you could say only one daily affirmation to yourself and to those you care about, let it be: Birth is G-d saying you matter.

In short, this is what it means: Every single human was created with a specific purpose to fulfill. Whether your parents planned to have you or were surprised by pregnancy, in G-d’s eyes you were not an accident. In fact, no child — no human — was put on Earth by accident.

You Were Chosen

In moments of depression, apathy, sadness, and resentment, you might hear yourself say, “I didn’t choose to be brought into this world,” or “I didn’t choose this life.”

You’re right — you didn’t choose it. You were chosen. Your soul was chosen to exist in your body, whether it makes sense to you or not. Even if your parents, or society at large, treated you like a burden, your existence makes perfect sense to the Higher Power that imbued you with life.

If This Is The First Time You’ve Heard This Idea…

Don’t feel guilty or like a failure, but do start investigating your mission in life. How well do you know yourself? Do you know what makes you tick? How much of your self-perception is colored by what family and society has said about or to you? Do you know what you — and only you — can contribute to the world?

When you discover your personal mission statement, you will begin to see how much you really do matter. And, if you hit bumps in the road or fall into bouts of apathy, hoist yourself back into reality by repeating the affirmation: Birth is G-d saying you matter.


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Rosh Hashana: One Request

September 14th, 2017

Rosh Hashana 5778

Dear Rabbi: If I were to focus on one thing on Rosh Hashana, what do you suggest it should be? (signed)

Why limit it to one thing? But since you ask, be aware that King David used that exact term, in the special Psalm (27) which we recite during these days: “Achas sho’alti” – “one thing I have asked of the Lord, this I seek: that I may dwell in the House of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the pleasantness of the Lord, and to visit His Sanctuary.”

What does that mean in relevant, contemporary terms?

Beyond all the complexity of life, beyond all our jaded experiences, beyond all the clutter and noise, we each have within our souls a very quiet place – a soft and gentle voice. This is who you are at your purest core. This is what you looked like when you were a newborn child.

And this is the place we return to every Rosh Hashana, when we celebrate the collective birthday of the human race. On this day 5778 years ago, a Divine breath, for the very first time, infused life into a pile of dust from the earth, creating the human being. We are part dust, part spirit – a body and a soul.

On this day each year we return to our origins: Not the dust part, but the spirit – the dimensions that makes us uniquely human.

And what does this spirit look and feel like? It is the part in you that has not been polluted by life experiences.

This is the one thing David asked for. “I seek,” he declared, “that I may dwell in the House of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the pleasantness of the Lord, and to visit His Sanctuary.”

In a hostile world, with many trials and tribulations, I seek a pure and peaceful place – to dwell in, to behold and to visit.

Even today when the Holy Temple no longer stands, we each still have within our hearts and souls a pure place that houses the Divine, where we can dwell and find comfort; a beautiful core whose pleasantness we can behold; an inner sanctum which we can regularly visit.

If you are looking to define one thing to focus on Rosh Hashana, ask yourself:

What do you seek?

Sadly most of us are distracted with the struggle for survival, the pursuit of material needs, the immediate challenges that each of us face. Rosh Hashana, especially during the Shofar blowing (this year on Sunday), put all that aside.

As we solemnly recite the verses in preparation for the Shofar blowing, allow the words to carry you away on their wings.

As the haunting Shofar begins to sound, imagine that this the simple cry of your soul, reaching out, yearning, beckoning.

Close your eyes. Take your mind, heart and presence to another place – to who you truly are beneath it all: “achas sho’alti” – seek out the single most important thing of all – your essence.

If you were to ask for one thing, “achas sho’alti,” ask for this: That your core purity should surface. That you should have the ability to dwell in and be embraced by its warm arms, all the day of your life. That you should sense with awe and behold its beauty. And that you should visit even the dimensions that transcend your soul.

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May you be blessed with a healthy, wholesome, loving and inspiring year, with success in all your endeavors and on all levels, materially and spiritually.

May you see all your experiences as stepping-stones to reach greater horizons. May you only have joy and happiness, and even in moments of uncertainty, may you learn to grow greater through them.

May you have the ability to swim the waters, but always remain above the waves.

On behalf of myself and the wonderful staff of the Meaningful Life Center, I wish you many warm blessings for the New Year.

 

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New Year Blessings

September 14th, 2017

A Personal Note

As we approach the New Year, I want to extend to you my personal blessings for a sweet and healthy year.

I also want to take this opportunity to thank all of you who have sent me your kind wishes and blessings for the New Year. We are told that all those that bless, shall be blessed. May your blessings be fulfilled many times over in your life.

May you have a year of love and peace, a year of marriage and joy, a year of healthy children and nachas, a year of material and spiritual success, a year of health and wealth, a year of life with purpose. Those that need special blessings in health or other matters, may G-d see what you need and fulfill it in the fullest measure. Above all, may we all have a year of global peace and redemption.

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The Baal Shem Tov once sent his students to observe a local innkeeper as part of their preparation work for Rosh Hashana. The students dutifully checked into the inn. Initially they observed nothing remarkable. After saying the Saturday night Selichot (special penitential prayers recited before the New Year), they went to sleep, only to be awakened by the innkeeper moving about in the lobby. They tip-toed out of their rooms to find the innkeeper opening up a cabinet and removed two big ledgers.

From one ledger he proceeded to read all his sins of the past year: he confessed that he was insensitive to his family, that he didn’t fulfill all his obligations to his community, that he didn’t study enough Torah, he once came late to prayers, etc. Then he opened the second ledger, saying to G-d, “These are my failings, now here’s what You didn’t do … I asked for a better living wage this year and you didn’t give it to me. My wife is still ill. My children need shoes. The cow stopped giving milk…”

In the end he concluded, “Look, I didn’t live up to my obligations and You didn’t live up to Yours. So let’s call it even. I’ll close my book, You’ll close Your book, and we’ll start a new year again with a clean slate.”

The relationship between us and G-d is a partnership. When G-d created human beings in His image, He invested something Divine in us. There is a partnership between us and Him to perfect the world.

G-d founded a business, and said to us: “I am the investor, but you stand behind the counter.”

Partners are accountable to each other. We can call G-d to accountability but we must equally know that we are being called upon to know how we are caring for His investment in us.

Before we confront our partner G-d it would be wise to do our part of the “deal” and show the complete effort we made. Then we can come well armed to our partner and challenge Him to reciprocate.

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As we enter the New Year I would like to declare my renewed commitment to fulfill my mission: To create an environment where all are welcome to explore our common and unique spiritual journey. To produce programs, events and publications that will help us all discover our calling and integrate it into our personal and professional lives.

I am excited to share that this year we will be taking this work to an entirely new dimension – stay tuned.

I thank you for all your support, including financial support, which provides the fuel so that we can continue our important work. At this time of year, it is especially appropriate to add in giving tzedakah (charity), which opens up new channels of blessings for the New Year.

I thank all our staff and friends – high quality people – dedicated to helping others and transcending their own comfort zones.

Above all I want to thank all the special souls that I have met directly or indirectly through my travels and writings. The written word – especially sent via e-mail – presents a unique challenge. The reader knows much more about the writer than the writer knows about the reader. It’s actually quite unbalanced. That is why I greatly appreciate receiving your feedback and thoughts, even your critique and rebuttals.

However I must say that all of you have enriched my life and the work that I do. Even if you have not written to me, perhaps vibes flow back through cyberspace. You have taught me – and continue to teach me – the beauty and the agony of life; the dignity of struggle and the courage of pain; the vulnerability of love and the strength of selflessness; the insecurity of being a taker and the security of being a giver. You have taught me to be more sensitive and understanding of the complexities of life, and also to be more joyful and less intense about the simple innocence that we all carry.

You have enriched my life indeed. Hopefully I can reciprocate.

Thank you.

May it be a truly blessed year, a year of simchas (joyous celebrations) – with openly revealed blessings that we can all appreciate.

With warmest wishes for a shana tova u’metuka,

Simon Jacobson

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How to Live on Your Own Terms

September 13th, 2017

“When you are close when you should be distant, you will be distant when you should be close.”  — The Sages

Are you living a life defined by your own voice or one that is defined by others? Do you feel that your sense of self has been annihilated or overshadowed? Are you living a life on your own terms or on other people’s terms? We live in a world that exerts a tremendous amount of influence on our lives. With so many forces, healthy and unhealthy, inundating us — parental attitudes, social pressures, domestic and work demands — it can often be very difficult to find your own voice and live proactively on your own terms, instead of always reacting to other people’s influences or expectations.

The essence of living on your own terms is healthy boundaries. We hear the phrase “boundary issues” used in self-help literature and pop-psychology, but what does it mean? And, what kind of boundaries do you need to live on your own terms?

What Are Boundaries?

“Having healthy boundaries” means that you have defined what aspects of your life should remain outside, and which should remain inside. Your inside is your internal life: Your soul, your values and ideals, your passions, intimacy, and love. They are things that should be protected. On the other hand, your outside is the tools that you use to interact with the world around you, which includes surviving in a hostile world. Having boundaries means that you know when to allow others into your internal world, and when to shield your inner-self from outside influences. Lack of boundaries is when the lines are blurred between your inside and your outside life.

And paradoxically, having healthy boundaries also allows you to care and love others on their terms as well, and reach out to others for help, without being obliterated in the process. Good boundaries create a wholesome balance between the self and the other; between “If I am not for myself who will be for me?” and “If I am only for myself, what am I?”

How to Create Boundaries

One of the biggest obstacles to living on your own terms is the effect that parents, teachers, and the culture at large have had on you. You must look carefully and honestly at which parts of yourself are authentic, and which parts you acquired as a reaction to the outside forces around you. Once you have sifted it out, it’s time to draw some boundaries. Here are guidelines for those boundaries:

Exercise: List your vision for what it would be like to live on your own terms. Go through the list point-by-point, analyzing how boundaries could facilitate the actualization of your vision. Journal about it in MyMLC. 


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Why You Need a Personal Mission Statement

September 6th, 2017

No business can function without a mission statement? Can you?

A mission describes the reason an entity — an organization or a person — exists. It defines what you stand for and where you’re headed. The mission statement serves as a source of direction, a kind of compass that creates focus, unifying all elements that make up your life, directing all your diverse activities toward a goal, and helping guide your decisions about priorities, actions, and responsibilities. It is clear, concise, and unique to you (not generic).

A mission statement must also be directed not to your personal gain, but to a higher goal. The common thread in every mission statement is: Its overarching goals are for the common good — way beyond profit. Your mission needs to focus on the end, not on the means. Your mission’s form follows its function. It is focused on the why, not on the how.

Exercise: Take a deep look into yourself. Ask yourself these questions: 1. How would you define your life mission? The reason you exist? 2. What makes you stand out? How are you unique? 3. What particular skills and experiences do you have that can make a difference? Record your answer in MyMLC.


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Interview With Hurricane Harvey

August 31st, 2017

In the wake of historic floods in Houston, Texas, we bring you an exclusive interview with Hurricane Harvey, offering us fascinating insights about the soul of a hurricane and its lessons for our lives. 

SJ: How are you today, Harvey?

HARVEY: Harvey?! Where did you get that ridiculous name from?

SJ: That seems to be the name that scientists call you.

HARVEY: Scientists! Give me a break. What do scientists know about me that they feel they can coin me with some human name? Did they parent me?

SJ: Actually, scientists are perplexed about you and your cohorts. Years ago they tried taming you, but they have long given up hope. Now they focus on trying to track the way you form and move.

HARVEY: Exactly. They know nothing about me, yet they call me by their man-made name!

SJ: So what should I call you?

HARVEY: You may be more comfortable calling me an “act of nature,” but I am actually an “act of G-d” – even your insurance companies have acknowledged that…

SJ: Isn’t it somewhat arrogant to call yourself an act of G-d?

HARVEY: It’s even more arrogant for humans to label me by their human name.

SJ: Ok, please don’t be so touchy. Let’s get beyond semantics.

HARVEY: This isn’t semantics. If people would accept that they I am not their creation, but a tool of G-d’s, they would be able to begin to understand me, and perhaps even master me.

SJ: Let’s get back to the interview. How are you today?

HARVEY: Much calmer thank you. I had a rough week down south, and I feel relieved that my rage is finally subsiding.

SJ: Rage? Are you angry at something?

HARVEY: Not exactly angry. However, as you may have witnessed, I unintentionally did cause much devastation. People were killed by the torrential rains brought on by me. And I have driven fear into so many people’s hearts. I am deeply disturbed by all this.

SJ: Why does it disturb you?

HARVEY: Because the last thing I want to do is terrify people. That is why I granted you this interview to apologize publicly and perhaps help set the record straight.

SJ: But you understand that with all due respect to you and your apologies, you can’t reverse the damage done, and frankly the damage you are continuing to do as you travel northeast.

HARVEY: It break my heart. I know that it’s not an excuse, but I really am not in control of these events. As I said, I am here to say I’m sorry and clarify anything I can.

SJ: Then I hope you won’t mind if I ask you some blunt questions about you and your friends.

HARVEY: By all means.

SJ: Our abovementioned scientists have learned much about your patterns, your nature and the way you are constructed. They have learned to track your path and to issue evacuation warnings to minimize your impact on populated cities. People have also learned how to shutter their homes and to use other measures to protect themselves from your floods and winds. However, with all our scientific progress, we don’t know how to fully protect ourselves against you. And we have no idea why you exist in the first place? What you are really about, what role you play. What your “soul,” if I can call it that, is like?

HARVEY: As you know everything in existence has both a body and a soul. By studying the body of an experience you can come to understand it’s soul. So, let me give you a lesson or two in the physical and spiritual nature of a hurricane.

Do you know what causes us to be formed?

SJ: I believe that the birth of a hurricane requires at least three conditions. First, the ocean waters must be warm enough (warmer than 26.5 degrees Celsius, 81°F) at the surface to put enough heat and moisture into the overlying atmosphere to provide the potential fuel for the thermodynamic engine that a hurricane becomes. Second, atmospheric moisture from seawater evaporation must combine with that heat and energy to form the powerful engine needed to propel a hurricane. Third, a wind pattern must be near the ocean surface to spirals air inward. Bands of thunderstorms form, allowing the air to warm further and rise higher into the atmosphere. If the winds at these higher levels are relatively light, this structure can remain intact and grow stronger, which results in the beginnings of a hurricane.

In your case, Harvey, one additional element came into play which made your rainfall that more devastating: When you made landfall in Texas, you ran into a ridge of high pressure over the southwestern United States, which blocked your further movement. That in turn caused you to become in effect like a marble on a flat table, wobbling around, essentially turning you into a conveyor belt, drawing moisture from the Gulf to coastal areas and pouring relentless rains in this trapped funnel. And this was not normal rainfall; it was extreme tropical rainfall. A normal rainfall rate of 0.5 inches per hour is heavy, while anything above 2.0 inches per hour is intense. The rainfall caused by you, Harvey, was cataclysmic. Over some areas in South Texas, in a period of two hours on one night alone, 10.6 inches of rain fell, about as much rainfall as New York City gets from October through December!

HARVEY: Very accurate. But allow me to add the following. Why do thunderstorms occur in the first place? Why, for instance, does a period of high humidity and low-pressure result in a thunderstorm?

SJ: I always understood it as a form of release. As heat builds up and has nowhere to escape, it finally bursts into a thunderstorm, to release the bottled up energy.

HARVEY: Exactly. Like the spout on a boiling kettle, which allows the pressure to be released, a thunderstorm releases the pressure build up within the system. If the storm would not come, the pressure could build up and explode like a kettle without a spout, causing much more damage.

Hurricanes begin essentially as a complex of thunderstorms. When a group of these storms comes together under the right atmospheric conditions for a long enough time, they may organize into a tropical depression. Once a tropical depression has intensified to the point where its maximum sustained winds are between 35-64 knots (39-73 mph), it becomes a tropical storm. During this time, the storm itself becomes more organized and begins to become more circular in shape – resembling a hurricane. As surface pressures continue to drop, a tropical storm becomes a hurricane when sustained wind speeds reach 64 knots (74 mph). A pronounced rotation develops around the central core.

SJ: But why in the first place is there such a disparity between hot and cold, between low and high-pressure systems that cause disturbances in atmospheric conditions, leading to storms and ultimately hurricanes?

HARVEY: Ahh, that leads us back to G-d and the way He created the universe, and to the “soul” of the storm — my soul. You have heard of the great Tzimzum, have you not?

SJ: Yes, I have. The Lurianic doctrine of tzimtzum explains how “space” was created for the existence of an entity that is consciously independent of G-d’s all encompassing reality. Like a teacher that conceals his brilliance to allow space for the student, the tzimzum allows us to exist and to slowly discover the Divine reality, step by step, in ways that we can contain without being annihilated.

HARVEY: But, as you know, this tzimzum in turn causes a serious imbalance. Once the true reality is concealed, a duality has taken hold. Two perspectives now clash with each other: The pre-tzimzum perspective from “above” that sees existence as just another extension of divine transcendence, and the post-tzimzum existential perspective from “below” that sees its own existence as primary and can barely sense a reality outside of its own. The two consciousnesses – the divine one and the human one – are no longer seamless.

SJ: A disparity exists between “light” and “container.”

HARVEY: The tension between these two realities ultimately leads to what is called the “shattering of the containers.” As painful as the shattering may be, it is necessary. It serves as a form of adjustment – a so called “market correction” – to realign and readjust material reality with Divine reality. When seen in its full light, the destruction of tohu, the shattering of the containers, releases the tension and is actually necessary to begin the process of repair and building something greater. Like the razing of a building in order to build a greater one in its place. Like the deteriorating seed that allows the fruit to bloom.

Now back to the statement we discussed earlier that everything in existence has both a body and a soul. The body of a hurricane is a result of heat, low pressure and the imbalance in atmospheric conditions: The stormy winds of the hurricane are in essence coming to realign the imbalance. In spiritual terms, the soul of the hurricane is similar to the “shattering of the containers” which comes to relieve the tension and realign the imbalance between spirit and matter.

SJ: Astounding.

HARVEY: If you like I will give you an example from your own human body. As you know, the human being is a universe in microcosm, and the universe is like a large organism. Everything that exists on Earth also exists in human physiology. Coughing is the body’s way of removing foreign material or mucous from the lungs and throat. High fever often is necessary to burn away unhealthy bacteria and fight off infections. You can see me as an atmospheric cough – drawing energy from the warm water – attempting to dislodge foreign forces that impede the flow of nature.

Or using another example from your world: I am like a large vacuum cleaner, sweeping up the dirt and grime of the universe, and realigning its balance.

SJ: This all sounds nice and good, but please forgive me: As a vacuum cleaner why must you wreak such havoc in your path, destroying lives, damaging property in the billions of dollars?

HARVEY: For the record, did you notice the great rains that came with the winds? Those are my tears, weeping for the destruction I leave in my wake.

SJ: I am moved. But instead of weeping, why don’t you just do your thing without any destruction, so neither you or we will need to weep in the first place?

HARVEY: First of all, I am not the one in control calling the shots. I am a force driven by G-d [or as some of you call Him: Nature], so you need to direct your question to Him. What I can tell you is that like the “shattering of the containers,” my destructive force is not an end in itself, but a necessary step to maintain balance in an unbalanced world.

SJ: Are you suggesting that you are a punishment for human sins?

HARVEY: G-d forbid. Just as the human cough is not a punishment and the “shattering of the containers” are not a punishment, neither am I. On the contrary, we are all forces that help realign and repair the disparity. To correct the irregularity.

If I had my way, I would never hit land where I can harm people and property. I would prefer doing my “rebalancing” out at sea, where you would not even know that I existed. Just as many of the earthquakes take place in the ocean depths, also, incidentally as a force that relieves the stress accumulated along geologic faults, separating between the plates of the earth’s crust grating against each other.

But what am I to do when my path often takes me through land that humans have recently populated? Frankly, if there were no people and no buildings in the way, there would be no destruction.

SJ: But there are people and buildings there.

HARVEY: Well the fact is that we came first. We hurricanes were here long before you populated this part of the world. Perhaps you were able to annihilate the natives of your land, but you really can’t get rid of us, and you wouldn’t want to if you appreciated our role in maintaining a balanced ecosystem.

Don’t get me wrong. I absolutely embrace your living in this part of the world. And as I said, if it were my call, I would do everything possible to stay away from hurting any of you.

But, the fact remains that we live in an unbalanced world, and you need us hurricanes as much as we need you. You could not imagine what the world would be like if we did not relieve the inherent tensions (as a cough eliminates the blockages) and did not do our share of “vacuuming.”

And finally, let’s not forget that part of the pressure includes the deep tension between nature and humans – a dichotomy that has been around for a long time.

SJ: How long?

HARVEY: My great grandfather told me that his great grandfather told him that his ancestors told him that these winds were blowing back then.

SJ: Are you essentially saying that you are merely a breath of fresh air?

HARVEY: And much more. I am a wind below that has the power to call and rouse the wind above. As the Zohar says: “wind rouses wind,” “spirit (ruach) rouses spirit.”

Did you ever notice why you sometimes cough strongly, gasping for air? You do so because you are trying to dislodge a blockage. Yes, it would be better to just breath silently with no disturbances. But when there is an impediment, you have the power to cough it up. Thus, the nuisance you call a cough is actually a lifesaver. So too, we hurricanes are a call that can reach deeper and blow away impediments.

We also cannot exist without heat and without water – the two essentials of life. Think about that.

SJ: Much to think about.

HARVEY: Now you can understand why I am offended that you insist on imposing upon me a man-made name? I am here to remind you of the winds above and the tensions between heaven and earth, and you go and try to turn me into another human commodity…

What is it with you humans? Why must you turn everything into a “product”?

SJ: What would like us to call you?

HARVEY: Perhaps… a breath of fresh air…

SJ: So where do you go from here, Harvey?

HARVEY: I will move north, deliver some life nourishing water and fill up your reservoirs. You never know when you’ll need extra water. Then I will probably just recede into the background. You won’t feel me but I’ll be there.

SJ: Since you know a thing or two about devastation, would you care to comment on the recent terrorist attacks in Europe and the current climate of terrorism consuming the world?

HARVEY: Please don’t compare me to them. I am a natural force, without free will, meant to rebalance things. As I mentioned, if it were up to me, I would function only at sea and in a place where I cannot disrupt your lives. Terrorists, on the other hand, have made a choice to aggressively attack human beings, all created in the Divine Image, for which they are fully accountable.

SJ: But couldn’t the same argument be made that the terrorists are a form of “market correction” to repair the imbalance in life, and to shake us out of our complacency and wake us up to our calling?

HARVEY: That may be true. But the terrorists still made their criminal choice, and no one appointed them to perpetrate their atrocities. So though you all need to learn your lessons from these attacks, in no way does this absolve them of responsibility for their vicious crimes.

SJ: I’m amazed with your knowledge. Are you alive? Sometimes a storm of your nature almost seems to have a life of its own as it threads its own path.

HARVEY: I am alive.

SJ: Will we ever meet again?

Next time you enjoy the breeze, feel the wind flutter or refresh your lungs, think of me. That wind may just be me whispering in your ear.

Next time you don’t know which way the wind blows, remember me.

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Finding Your True Passion In Life

August 30th, 2017

How can you find your passion in life? You need only look inside yourself: You already have it; you only have access to it. Your very soul is a passionate ball of fire — a burning flame waiting to be released. Like a pilot flame, your passionate, fiery soul needs to be fanned so it manifests in your life. When you release your fire (some call it your inner child, some call it your soul), the flame inside you grows stronger.

How do you get the fire going?

Start by getting to know yourself well. Find out what makes you tick. Nurture your inner self and your inherent passions will begin to emerge. The more you feed and fuel your inner flame, the more your passions will come alive.

Exiled Passion

Even in the worst cases of apathy, the “pilot” passion is still there, though it is concealed or displaced — in “exile.” It is diminished, but it still burns. It simply does not have a way to manifest. One problem that “exiled” passion creates is that since the passionate soul naturally wants to express itself and surge forward, without healthy outlets people will look for unhealthy places to express that intensity in ways that are destructive to self and others, such as gambling, drugs, inappropriate relationships and other addictions.

Channeling Your Passion

The challenge for you, and for every one of us, is how to channel the inherent intensity of your soul into something healthy and eternal. For example: The passion of intimacy can be channeled into marrying your soul mate and building a purposeful life together. Sexual passion is not bad; it actually is a very sacred form of energy — the issue is where and how you direct it. Another example: You might have a passion for football or other sports. Can you channel that passion for action, competition, teamwork, and scoring points into building something that will leave a positive mark on the world?

Exercise: Ask yourself: How can I turn my passions for material/physical pleasure into passions for truly soul-satisfying pursuits?  Journal about it on MyMLC.


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Are You Concerned About the Future?

August 23rd, 2017

Hope in Times of Uncertainty

As we enter the new lunar month of Elul – the month of love and compassion – it is a bit difficult for some to feel beauty and hope.

No doubt, there is much beauty in the world. Humans continue to demonstrate noble acts of gallantry. In many little corners of the globe unsung heroes shine and illuminate their environments.

But collectively we are living in uncertain times. The political climate in the USA has never been so polarized. Individually, with all our blessings, we also all face many struggles. Some are afraid about an uncertain future.

On the international front, a deep cloud hangs over the globe – not only for millions of people in the Middle East, but for populations in virtually every hemisphere. Take the latest terrorist attack in Barcelona. The toxic air can ignite a new attack at any moment, in any place. No one knows when and where the next crisis will strike. The Middle East in particular, with its growing upheavals, remains a hotbed waiting to erupt.

Add to the equation the personal and emotional anxieties that people grapple with daily, the psychological forces that drain us, and we have, shall we say, quite a “bundle” (a “pekel” as the good Yiddish expression goes) to deal with. Much, much baggage weighs us down.

The compassionate power of Elul seems very distant.

But what else is new? Elul was never an easy process. The source of this month’s history and power goes back over 3000 years ago, and tells the entire story:

Moses climbs Mount Sinai to receive the Torah. After 40 days Moses returns, only to find that the Jewish people defied G-d by building the Golden Calf. Moses breaks the tablets and returns to Sinai to pray that G-d pardon the people for their grave betrayal. He spends another 40 days on Sinai and his efforts are unsuccessful. But Moses does not give up. Determined, he climbs the mountain for a third time and pleads another 40 days. This time Moses is successful. He elicits not merely Divine forgiveness, but a newfound depth, a more intense dimension in the relationship between G-d and the people.

To Moses’ entreaty, G-d responds with an unprecedented gift: He reveals His Thirteen Attributes of Compassion—thirteen secrets of G-d’s “personality” that carry the mysteries of life and the power to repair whatever is broken.

This third period of 40 days began on the first day of the month of Elul and concluded on Yom Kippur. Elul is therefore a potent month filled with the power of hope, love and reconciliation. The mystics tell us that the Thirteen Divine Attributes of Compassion radiate during the month of Elul, when we relive Moses’ experience.

By way of analogy, the Alter Rebbe explains, that in the month of Elul “the King is in the field.” The king had been traveling; he had left his palace and gone to a far off land outside his kingdom. And now he is on his way home. He is about to enter his palace (on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur) and he stands outside in the field greeting his people. When the king is in the field every person has the opportunity, without petitioning for an audience, to greet him and ask for whatever he or she needs. The king is smiling, he is in his informal mode, and he is predisposed to grant all requests.

All year round there are many layers that conceal G-d’s presence, that shroud your own essence from yourself; there is a split between your inner self and your outer self—who you truly are and what you do, your spirit and your activities. In Elul many of these layers are stripped. You can access, if you wish, your true self, since it is part of the higher reality and the essence of all of existence called G-d.

Elul is not a simple month. It is a complex period in time when we have the power to find hope even after loss, to discover love even after betrayal and to rebuild even after we have destroyed. All people make mistakes. The question is whether we repeat them and whether we repair them. A trusting, loving relationship is built not on perfection but on accountability. In Elul we can correct our errors and reclaim our true legacy.

Elul’s message is relevant today more than ever.

As a tentative world enters the compassionate month of Elul, is there any more appropriate message? There is much to be apprehensive about. Many mistakes have been made. The future seems uncertain. But Moses – the one and only Moses – blazed a new path: The road to hope.

The month of Elul, which begins today – and the ensuing 40 days concluding with Yom Kippur – gives us the power to begin anew, to learn from the past, to dig deeper and come up with new reservoirs of clarity and strength.

Ahh, Moses. He paved new paths, tread new roads, opened new doors, pioneered new possibilities. All for whom? For… us.

Elul awakens our inner faith, hope and belief in a better future. We may not have an exact strategy, but if we assume a resigned attitude, we will lose even before we begin. Every challenge, every adversary must begin with absolute fortitude and belief in victory. Faith that we will prevail. Thus it was over 3000 years ago, and many times after that, and thus it will be.

The gusts of Elul have the power to counter the winds of uncertainty. So open your window, breath the fresh air, smell the flowers and feel the hopeful breeze waft through your life.


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This extraordinary 60 day journey, which begins today and includes Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, embodies the energy of renewal after destruction, rebirth after loss, the energy of love and forgiveness, of empowerment and joy. There is no better time than now to embrace this 60 day journey, a journey that helps us find comfort in uncertain times, strength amidst adversity and fortitude and direction to forge ahead.

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Recognizing and Seizing Opportunities

August 22nd, 2017

In order to seize an opportunity, you first have to recognize it. While some of the opportunities given to you in life are obvious, others are hidden. What does it mean that an opportunity is hidden, and how can you find it?

Generate Sparks

A physical analogy: Picture a matchbook. If the matchbook is in working order (i.e. it is not waterlogged or missing a critical component), every match contains the potential to generate sparks and light flames. Although you do not see sparks when you look at the matchbook, you recognize the potential for sparks because you know the matchbook’s function. You know that all it will take to extract a spark from a match is the act of striking the match on an appropriate surface or igniting it with another flame.

Everything you encounter in life — every situation and every person — is like that matchbook, in the sense that they contain sparks, which are generated through your actions. Dismissing any experience as useless is like looking at a functional book of matches and deeming it devoid of sparks. There is a kernel of enormous value in everything, even stuff that is frustrating and unpleasant. It’s up to you to look for the hidden opportunity, for that hidden spark.

Your life is driven by a hidden choreography, far richer than you can imagine, with sparks of opportunities concealed in every step of your journey. It’s your role to uncover and ignite these sparks, connecting the dots and the coordinates of your life trajectory.

Places Where Opportunities Hide

Challenges: Challenges can be difficult, but they are rife with opportunities. If it seems like your challenges have not offered you any opportunities, change your perspective. Ask yourself: What have my challenges taught me? What strengths and skills have you acquired to deal with your setbacks? What good came from your overcoming a challenge? Have your challenges taken you to new places or introduced you to new people? Have you, at the very least, gained self-knowledge through the difficulties you have faced? Have you put that self-knowledge to work?

Meetings: You might be through with your formal education, but the school of life is always in session. When you meet others, even for no special reason, always keep your eyes, ears, and heart open to new opportunities. Maybe someone will mention a situation which can open up new doors for you. Maybe you will discover that someone needs help with something. In every interaction look for ways to be of service — that’s where the opportunities are hiding.

“Random” encounters: Every one of your encounters, even seemingly random ones, has a purpose. Every single person whom you encounter, even someone unpleasant, is put in your path for a reason. Always be open to hidden, unexpected possibilities in every one of your experiences. Every encounter, even the ones that ostensibly seem superficial, will offer you an opportunity to be kind, or be helpful, or to refine your emotional attributes. When you travel, even if its for business or pleasure, always be open for the spontaneous encounter that can change your life and the life of another.

Your work: Your job is more than an opportunity to earn a living. The people you work with, the place where you work, and the actual work that you do are suffused with opportunities. What can your work teach you about being a better person? Are there people at work who you don’t yet know but who you might reach out to? Can you use your work as a means to fulfill your purpose in life, even if the actual work seems like it is not at all connected to it?

Exercise: Think about your life. List three surprising opportunities you have discovered in areas where you otherwise would not have thought there existed new possibilities. Journal your list in MyMLC.


Go deeper into this subject: Are You Reactive or Proactive? | The Journey Begins | The Chase

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How to Create a New Habit

August 16th, 2017

Are you trying to create a new habit, or break free from an old one? There are four practices that will facilitate your process. Anyone can do them — no religious affiliation or experience necessary, and they are totally practical! Just start, don’t be afraid to make mistakes, and keep trying.

Shake Up Your Life

Though there are many factors that make it difficult to break an old habit, one important element to consider is the enormous power of inertia, the force of the status quo — being stuck in your comfort zone. To break out of the powerful inertia exerted by your comfort zone and to create a new habit, you must be willing to shake things up a little — or a lot. To shift the status quo and go beyond your conventional routines. Initially it may feel unnerving and uncomfortable, but it’s well worth it, because every shift opens up new doors. And a shift in one area of life spills over and helps you expand your natural boundaries in other areas of life. Change breeds change. One change leads to another!

Mind Over Emotions

Why do you stay in your comfort zone, even when it may result in harmful or limiting behavior? One reason is because you become emotionally invested in and trapped by your repeated behaviors. Look carefully at yourself: Are you afraid to leave your comfort zone? Free yourself by listening to your mind instead of your emotions. Allow your reflective mind to challenge your emotional and subjective concerns. Allow your mind to imagine and dream of a place that is beyond your present comfort zone. It takes introspection and practice to master knowing if your intellect or emotions are “speaking” to you, but the practice of separating your intellect from your emotions and acting on your intellect will empower you to do things that you are not accustomed to; to dare explore new vistas.

Make Your Rituals Less Habitual

Look carefully at your day: How many things do you do by rote, without giving it any thought? Many of our habits are things we learned from our parents, educators and culture. Very often we just mindlessly mimic these routines — habits that we do not own; behavior patterns that we acquired (or were imposed upon us) especially in our impressionable years. A way then to weaken your habitual behavior is by focusing and examining your routines, and making them your own — a routine that is relevant and customized to your needs. Identify your daily rituals, and don’t allow them to control you. Think about each one of these routines deliberately, and see how you can personalize them. For instance: Instead of mindlessly following your morning routine, which you learned from someone else, tailor that routine to your style, and not the default that you picked up from childhood. Instead of, say, rushing out of the house every morning, replace that routine with getting up earlier and streamlining your pre-work ritual. Ask yourself: What can you do to make your routines more relevant to you? Even good habits need to be reviewed and integrated. Even if your habits would work for someone else — you must find what works for you.

Cultivate and Nurture Your New Habit

Real growth takes time. Much like the way a gardener tends to his or her plants, you must nurture a new habit. Seed it: Every big plant begins as a tiny seed. Start small — change one aspect of one routine, and then use the strength you acquire from that success to push you toward bigger changes. Weed it: If something is eating up the space and energy that you’d like to devote to your new habit, remove it. Remember — weeding is a daily or weekly practice! Feed it: Give your new habit attention and time. Similar to the way that plants must be watered and kept in the sun in order to stay alive, a new habit can’t be neglected!

Exercise: Success starts with a plan! Choose one new habit you’d like to acquire. On paper or in your free MyMLC Journal, envision and outline how you will use the four practices described in this post to support your new habit.

 


Go deeper into this subject: Your Guide to Personal Freedom Week Four | Beyond Virtue | Emotional Subjectivity: Enemy or Ally | Are You a Conformist? | The Universal Message of Rosh Hashanah | Can the New Year Actually Change You? | A New Year: Has Anything Changed in Your Life?

 

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